Well it's been a rough week. Stress at work and the van beginning engine troubles. we don't know to the extent of the problem but we suspect it might need a new engine.
There remains a lot of stress in the house as we prepare a Wedding with Brandy and I. Even though we are married in the eyes of the Lord, Brandy still wants he wedding and we have th opportunity to make it happen on the 15th of January. The wives are getting stressed about getting it done.I guess that is normal.
I had Friday and Saturday off. it was great since been working through the last three weeks.
Times get sticky and I find myself doing alot of praying. It's a constant job to keep up with this family financially and physically.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Saturday, November 6, 2010
EXCOMMUNICATION
Life always has it's mile stones and this is true about us.We have been officially Excommunicated as of the 25th of September. Yeah its long over dues to post but I have been rather busy.
Basically it sums up the topics from the September 16th disciplinary council.
The church excommunicated us as our "conduct" was contrary to the laws and order of the Church. We both received letters and mine stated that it was related to my acts on Polygamy, Adultery, and the misuse of the priest hood.
Before I can be readmitted to the Church they gave us conditions.
1. Sincerely seek the Lord. Pray and consider the living situation with my legal and plural wives. Coordinate steps to repent with the Bishop to begin the process of returning to the Church.
2. We may continue to attend and participate in church and church activities, as long as we are not argumentative, do not preach contrary to the Church doctrine.
For the record we never were argumentative or preached contrary to church doctrine. i stated in the disciplinary board I wasn't in church to do that. i was in Church to learn.
Also how can they say that I committed adultery when they recognized my wives as plural wives? you can't commit adultery with ones own wife.
The misuse of the preisthood was because they saw that I did home church and passed the sacrament among my family, while the board was pending. We already knew that the ultimate decision that they would wind up at was excommunication, So as a priest hood holder and head of the household, that thrust me into the role as the head of the home church.
Basically it sums up the topics from the September 16th disciplinary council.
The church excommunicated us as our "conduct" was contrary to the laws and order of the Church. We both received letters and mine stated that it was related to my acts on Polygamy, Adultery, and the misuse of the priest hood.
Before I can be readmitted to the Church they gave us conditions.
1. Sincerely seek the Lord. Pray and consider the living situation with my legal and plural wives. Coordinate steps to repent with the Bishop to begin the process of returning to the Church.
2. We may continue to attend and participate in church and church activities, as long as we are not argumentative, do not preach contrary to the Church doctrine.
For the record we never were argumentative or preached contrary to church doctrine. i stated in the disciplinary board I wasn't in church to do that. i was in Church to learn.
Also how can they say that I committed adultery when they recognized my wives as plural wives? you can't commit adultery with ones own wife.
The misuse of the preisthood was because they saw that I did home church and passed the sacrament among my family, while the board was pending. We already knew that the ultimate decision that they would wind up at was excommunication, So as a priest hood holder and head of the household, that thrust me into the role as the head of the home church.
OUT OF THE CLOSET
Well sorry I haven't blog in a while,.. these 50+ hour weeks sometimes get the best of me.
Lots of things are on my mind these days and lots to blog about. But lets start with the basics.
I used names like DH and Ann so that if someone accidentally came across the blog they wouldn't know who we were exactly. Since then we were ousted to the church. While I set everything to privet on my page someone manage to track down the blogs and connect the dots. More on that later,...
Any how are real names which I will be useing from now on are:
DH;......... Rich
Ann;........ Angela
B-Leigh;.. Brandy
J-Ann;..... Julie
Most of my followers and friend already knew the true identities of each of us.
Lots of things are on my mind these days and lots to blog about. But lets start with the basics.
I used names like DH and Ann so that if someone accidentally came across the blog they wouldn't know who we were exactly. Since then we were ousted to the church. While I set everything to privet on my page someone manage to track down the blogs and connect the dots. More on that later,...
Any how are real names which I will be useing from now on are:
DH;......... Rich
Ann;........ Angela
B-Leigh;.. Brandy
J-Ann;..... Julie
Most of my followers and friend already knew the true identities of each of us.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Honey do list and Family
I feel rather accomplished today as I got some of the things around the house done. Seems like only a little work but the kicthcen sink need a new facet and a few things done around the house.
it's a lot when considering that I am putting in 54 hour weeks and i work third shift.
The wives are getting along fine today, some rough spots that had to help iron out. The show sister wives make polygamy look so interesting and easy,..
Our family differs from the Browns in that we are a younger family and our childern are smaller. We have four still in diapers.
Ann and I have been together over three years and legally married for 2 years of that time. B-Leigh follows at being around for 2 years. Seems like so long ago. B-Leigh and j-Ann never had the ceremony of a wedding to join us. we just committed ourselves to each other for time and eternity and started living as man and wives. Hopefully soon I will be able to give them a reception , though long in waiting< to announce to the world that they are my wives.
it's a lot when considering that I am putting in 54 hour weeks and i work third shift.
The wives are getting along fine today, some rough spots that had to help iron out. The show sister wives make polygamy look so interesting and easy,..
Our family differs from the Browns in that we are a younger family and our childern are smaller. We have four still in diapers.
Ann and I have been together over three years and legally married for 2 years of that time. B-Leigh follows at being around for 2 years. Seems like so long ago. B-Leigh and j-Ann never had the ceremony of a wedding to join us. we just committed ourselves to each other for time and eternity and started living as man and wives. Hopefully soon I will be able to give them a reception , though long in waiting< to announce to the world that they are my wives.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Reflections on polygamy Blessings
When our house gets out of "Harmony", chaos become center stage. But when it runs in "Harmony" it is the most wonderful feeling and blessing that there is.
When the house is quiet and the kids are all playing without screaming it's great. My two youngest sons William and Thomas are both crawling now. It's great to watch.
We added a new life form to our family group. A death dog name Zoe. She is a mix (mutt).
Today was my first Saturday that I have had off since starting third shift. When my coworker put in his two week notice the wives were hoping that I would be moved to a different shift but instead they hired another worker for that shift.
Some things that we are striving to continue Harmony and stabilize finances. With the Great recession going on we are living as simple as we can and saving toward our future and hoping that we don't have an unforeseen emergency that will place a demand on our savings. We are also exploring ways to increase our ability to be self sufficient.
When the house is quiet and the kids are all playing without screaming it's great. My two youngest sons William and Thomas are both crawling now. It's great to watch.
We added a new life form to our family group. A death dog name Zoe. She is a mix (mutt).
Today was my first Saturday that I have had off since starting third shift. When my coworker put in his two week notice the wives were hoping that I would be moved to a different shift but instead they hired another worker for that shift.
Some things that we are striving to continue Harmony and stabilize finances. With the Great recession going on we are living as simple as we can and saving toward our future and hoping that we don't have an unforeseen emergency that will place a demand on our savings. We are also exploring ways to increase our ability to be self sufficient.
Continuation of life
Sorry with third shift, Threes wives, and five childern,.. It's been hectic around here. Haven't blogged in a while. Lots been happening though.
Lets just start on ethics. a few weeks back was contacted by a person of Face book that asked if I knew a certain woman. When I told her I had, she proceeded to say that I was being lied to and that it was an underage girl, the FBI was involved and that she was in the UK looking to runaway. When I asked for verification about the FBI the person was very vague and sounded like she was trying to skirt that and other inquiry that i was asking her.
Why i mention that? After investigating I found that the person was attempting to get me from talking to the other woman. This is the second time that I have had another couple try to influence our family talking to other woman.
I have to wonder what goes though their heads when they do this. First and foremost the last time I looked talking to a single woman, they are a person not a thing.to fight over. yes I must admit sometime I am persistent, but in my defense there are woman that I talked to for a romantic interest and we only became friends,... We Stayed in contact and I have to admit where they wound up it was where they need to have gone anyway. I am content with that. and glad that i behaved as a gentleman and found good friendships.
I follow more of a "God's will" on my relationship search, I feel more spiritual in the building the family basses. it works better then just wanting to fall for who I would consider a perfect mate .There are a lot of things that have to be taken into consideration , mainly how a potential wife would fit into the family.and do we have room?
Lot of questions and need to seek answers on courting. Seeking the advise and counseling of God is always the best. he is the ultimate therapist when it come to that and many paths in life that we need to trod.
God wants us to be happy and to be successful, which also come to my other topic, Family finances. As the family get bigger that is always a trying point no matter what the family size. in the Great Recession trying to make ends meet and to prepare for the future a major challenge. Bills have to be paid and with the added members of a family the cost of utilities go up.
You would think that with everyone working the income would be up there and in fact it's getting up there. With nine souls that live in the house not including one cat, one dog, two turtles and three rats. The Food bill has gotten up there and I never thought I would see so much spent on food. J-Ann and B-Leigh both have jobs now. B-Leigh works two part time jobs to make it. I am very proud of her. Ann is the career house wife.
My job has been doing good with overtime to work to help make ends meet. We have adopted a goal of streamlining our lives so that we don't live paycheck to paycheck. That is almost a death sentence waiting to happen for a family as large as ours.
Finances are interesting. In the show "Big Love" they just throw everything into a communal pot. this doesn't sound to good to me as that mean that we surrender our independence too much. So what we do is have a house account. We as a family add to the house account to pay the family bills. we also save money in the house account as well. In addition we all have our personal accounts. My money that I earn at work goes directly into the house account while my VA pension goes into my personal account.I am a firm believe as joint finances and individual financial freedom.I will post more often.
Lets just start on ethics. a few weeks back was contacted by a person of Face book that asked if I knew a certain woman. When I told her I had, she proceeded to say that I was being lied to and that it was an underage girl, the FBI was involved and that she was in the UK looking to runaway. When I asked for verification about the FBI the person was very vague and sounded like she was trying to skirt that and other inquiry that i was asking her.
Why i mention that? After investigating I found that the person was attempting to get me from talking to the other woman. This is the second time that I have had another couple try to influence our family talking to other woman.
I have to wonder what goes though their heads when they do this. First and foremost the last time I looked talking to a single woman, they are a person not a thing.to fight over. yes I must admit sometime I am persistent, but in my defense there are woman that I talked to for a romantic interest and we only became friends,... We Stayed in contact and I have to admit where they wound up it was where they need to have gone anyway. I am content with that. and glad that i behaved as a gentleman and found good friendships.
I follow more of a "God's will" on my relationship search, I feel more spiritual in the building the family basses. it works better then just wanting to fall for who I would consider a perfect mate .There are a lot of things that have to be taken into consideration , mainly how a potential wife would fit into the family.and do we have room?
Lot of questions and need to seek answers on courting. Seeking the advise and counseling of God is always the best. he is the ultimate therapist when it come to that and many paths in life that we need to trod.
God wants us to be happy and to be successful, which also come to my other topic, Family finances. As the family get bigger that is always a trying point no matter what the family size. in the Great Recession trying to make ends meet and to prepare for the future a major challenge. Bills have to be paid and with the added members of a family the cost of utilities go up.
You would think that with everyone working the income would be up there and in fact it's getting up there. With nine souls that live in the house not including one cat, one dog, two turtles and three rats. The Food bill has gotten up there and I never thought I would see so much spent on food. J-Ann and B-Leigh both have jobs now. B-Leigh works two part time jobs to make it. I am very proud of her. Ann is the career house wife.
My job has been doing good with overtime to work to help make ends meet. We have adopted a goal of streamlining our lives so that we don't live paycheck to paycheck. That is almost a death sentence waiting to happen for a family as large as ours.
Finances are interesting. In the show "Big Love" they just throw everything into a communal pot. this doesn't sound to good to me as that mean that we surrender our independence too much. So what we do is have a house account. We as a family add to the house account to pay the family bills. we also save money in the house account as well. In addition we all have our personal accounts. My money that I earn at work goes directly into the house account while my VA pension goes into my personal account.I am a firm believe as joint finances and individual financial freedom.I will post more often.
Monday, September 20, 2010
Up Dates and Start of Third Shift.
Sorry about the long time no update. It wasn't intentional. It has been a very busy time for the family.
Last Thursday I went back to work. Worked Thursday and Friday on first shift then on onto third shift which started Sunday night. The nice thing about this job is that it is a temp to hire and so far really enjoy working there. So Thursday was bittersweet as that was the scheduled board with the Bishop and the bishopric. the interview and board did take some time and the group was impressed by my knowledge of church history and testimonial about becoming and being Mormon. But in the end they only had one choice since I didn't renounce my marriages and relationships with my other two wives and will not go Monogamous with just my fist and legal wife, they stated that they will continue with the excommunication.It's just a matter of them writing the letter and sending it. I could ask for an appeal and it would move up the ladder, but the point is that my view on Plural marriage is contrary to the doctrine that is taught in the church today. In that I have decided that it would be fruitless and not where God is leading me. I was honest in the board and upfront as I should be.
Friday I got paid for a painting job that I had done a week before so we had money do get things done. One of the first things that we did was get a Sam's club membership and pretty much saved the membership fee in our first shopping trip. With this kind of family we have to buy in bulk,
Sunday we helped out a friend clean out a house that they were renting and got a refrigerator, Washer, and dryer. the Fringe is up and running , but we haven't got the washer and dryer here yet. so we have two refrigerators and up till now had been doing our wash at coin washes. Sunday was way to busy so actually didn't have time to get together for home church at all. I had to work Sunday night so it was get some sleep before work.
I enjoy the fact that the Lord continues to bless our house and our lives. sometime being busy is good but the wives will be much relax when the house is back to normal.
Last Thursday I went back to work. Worked Thursday and Friday on first shift then on onto third shift which started Sunday night. The nice thing about this job is that it is a temp to hire and so far really enjoy working there. So Thursday was bittersweet as that was the scheduled board with the Bishop and the bishopric. the interview and board did take some time and the group was impressed by my knowledge of church history and testimonial about becoming and being Mormon. But in the end they only had one choice since I didn't renounce my marriages and relationships with my other two wives and will not go Monogamous with just my fist and legal wife, they stated that they will continue with the excommunication.It's just a matter of them writing the letter and sending it. I could ask for an appeal and it would move up the ladder, but the point is that my view on Plural marriage is contrary to the doctrine that is taught in the church today. In that I have decided that it would be fruitless and not where God is leading me. I was honest in the board and upfront as I should be.
Friday I got paid for a painting job that I had done a week before so we had money do get things done. One of the first things that we did was get a Sam's club membership and pretty much saved the membership fee in our first shopping trip. With this kind of family we have to buy in bulk,
Sunday we helped out a friend clean out a house that they were renting and got a refrigerator, Washer, and dryer. the Fringe is up and running , but we haven't got the washer and dryer here yet. so we have two refrigerators and up till now had been doing our wash at coin washes. Sunday was way to busy so actually didn't have time to get together for home church at all. I had to work Sunday night so it was get some sleep before work.
I enjoy the fact that the Lord continues to bless our house and our lives. sometime being busy is good but the wives will be much relax when the house is back to normal.
Sunday, September 12, 2010
September 12th Sabbeth
Well it's the end of a long week.J-Ann is a house keeper in a catholic dorm. I think it's a bit of a chuckle, A Mormon polygamist is working in a catholic organization. We will keep a lid on that lol. She started her job on Friday.
Ann went to see the Bishop last Tuesday.he asked her about her views on our family and whether or not she was okay with polygamy. She was at first scared at facing him alone but she did it. I am very proud of her.
Been a busy week with lots of new things going on.
Ann is a bit upset at the future with the discipline board coming up. it should be in a week or two. J-Ann has helped with research of Mormon studies of the early church and it was very interesting what we cam up with with a lot of info on the churches practice on Polygamy. I have also started to read the Journal of discourse which is in 20 volumes.
My son William has a stomach virus. so the poor guy isn't feeling to well.
Home church today was pretty good. I had a longer sermon about the occult and the bible. I enjoy all kinds of biblical conversation. I don't accept ones word on the subject as I study and pray. even if I don't' have an answer to the original topic. Study is my life and I love getting to the bottom of the subject.
Ann went to see the Bishop last Tuesday.he asked her about her views on our family and whether or not she was okay with polygamy. She was at first scared at facing him alone but she did it. I am very proud of her.
Been a busy week with lots of new things going on.
Ann is a bit upset at the future with the discipline board coming up. it should be in a week or two. J-Ann has helped with research of Mormon studies of the early church and it was very interesting what we cam up with with a lot of info on the churches practice on Polygamy. I have also started to read the Journal of discourse which is in 20 volumes.
My son William has a stomach virus. so the poor guy isn't feeling to well.
Home church today was pretty good. I had a longer sermon about the occult and the bible. I enjoy all kinds of biblical conversation. I don't accept ones word on the subject as I study and pray. even if I don't' have an answer to the original topic. Study is my life and I love getting to the bottom of the subject.
Sunday, September 5, 2010
HOME CHURCH
well today we held out first home church. It was 12:30 to 1 pm. We did the sacrament of unleavened bread and use kosher concord grape wine that is prepared for Jewish holiday stuff to Jewish standards. The blessing of the sacrament was pretty much like you would hear in a LDS church. The songs that we sang were "I am hear to Worship", "I am a child of God", and "Trust and Obey". I had wrote yesterday a short sermon "Service to the family"
Thursday, September 2, 2010
PREPARING FOR THE START OF THE HOME CHURCH
Well, for those who don't already know, Ann and I are facing a disciplinary board after the Latter Day Saints Church discovered our blogs. Someone from our ward cam across and connected who is who and turned it in to the bishop. I found out about all this on Tuesday and the bishop asked us not to attend church until the board convenes. We don't have a date on that as of yet as the Bishopric has to be present. The Stake president might even be presiding over it as well. The LDS church actually catching a practicing polygamist in their midst is, I guess is something of a rare event.
I am not focusing on the future with the LDS church or the upcoming disciplinarian board. I believe my wives were a blessing of god to put them in my life and again I find myself challenged on my convictions. The First was the Passing of my beloved Wendie and what God would want me to learn from that. now this is the second that is testing my faith in the principle that God gave me in relation.
Of course the Bishop did read me the Official Declaration that President Wilford Wilson wrote in 1890. This was the famous Manifesto that was mad by the church to stop practicing Plural marriages as the US government was preparing to take church property. The United States was limiting the rights of Americans to whom they could marry and defining marriage as one man and one woman.
Now on the political front lines is marriage rights of a different sort.. The hot debate of the same sex marriage issue. Several states have already allowed same sex unions.
For well over a hundred years in this country marriage definition have been an issue that been argued and fought over. some have even died over it.
Now back in my world. I don't have any revelation for the LDS church as a whole., just for myself and that of my family. The board will only do one thing and that will be to excommunicate Ann and I when we refuse to abandon our two extra wives. We could but I believe my revelation and the living of God's commandments greater then any position or calling in the church of the LDS.
So that leaves with us but one choice. Until God directs us to another church, I will have to exercise the priesthood that I have been granted and lead my family spiritually. That will mean the set up of a home church to give the sacrament and to observe the sabbath. This will be completely new to me as it not just a home evening but actually hold a service.
We have begun to prepare for the sabbath by procuring supplies. J-Ann will make unleavened bread and we bought a koshered concord grape juiced. While the LDS Uses tap water and regular bread bought in the stores, I feel lead that preparing for the sacrament is just as important as the blessing and administering it. If we are going to do this we are going to do it on the right foot.
I am not focusing on the future with the LDS church or the upcoming disciplinarian board. I believe my wives were a blessing of god to put them in my life and again I find myself challenged on my convictions. The First was the Passing of my beloved Wendie and what God would want me to learn from that. now this is the second that is testing my faith in the principle that God gave me in relation.
Of course the Bishop did read me the Official Declaration that President Wilford Wilson wrote in 1890. This was the famous Manifesto that was mad by the church to stop practicing Plural marriages as the US government was preparing to take church property. The United States was limiting the rights of Americans to whom they could marry and defining marriage as one man and one woman.
Now on the political front lines is marriage rights of a different sort.. The hot debate of the same sex marriage issue. Several states have already allowed same sex unions.
For well over a hundred years in this country marriage definition have been an issue that been argued and fought over. some have even died over it.
Now back in my world. I don't have any revelation for the LDS church as a whole., just for myself and that of my family. The board will only do one thing and that will be to excommunicate Ann and I when we refuse to abandon our two extra wives. We could but I believe my revelation and the living of God's commandments greater then any position or calling in the church of the LDS.
So that leaves with us but one choice. Until God directs us to another church, I will have to exercise the priesthood that I have been granted and lead my family spiritually. That will mean the set up of a home church to give the sacrament and to observe the sabbath. This will be completely new to me as it not just a home evening but actually hold a service.
We have begun to prepare for the sabbath by procuring supplies. J-Ann will make unleavened bread and we bought a koshered concord grape juiced. While the LDS Uses tap water and regular bread bought in the stores, I feel lead that preparing for the sacrament is just as important as the blessing and administering it. If we are going to do this we are going to do it on the right foot.
Monday, August 30, 2010
TO FOURTH OR NOT TO FOURTH
Well there has been some talk in my family about adding another wife. I think that is left up to God himself as we go on our path. J-Ann, sees a fourth wife and B-Leigh would love to have a sister wife her age. ( It's hard for her to make friends outside the family) Ann is getting warmed up to the idea, as long as it isn't rushed too fast.
As for me, Yeah the idea of a fourth is appealing especially if it's the right woman. but i would want to make sure it's the right woman that God has picked out for us. What I desire and what God feels is best for my family and I could well be very different. Don't get me wrong, I love the wives that the Lord has chosen for me.
They each have their own style that is unique just to them. I wouldn't trad them for the world. Ann ,for her determination, she believed and stayed with me when most would have bailed. B-Leigh , for her youthful charm and carefree whims that sometimes annoy the others. J-Ann for her strong will, charming smile, and her organization skill. They are all beautiful and I do not compare them to each other. that would not be healthy.
No matter whether a fourth is chosen by God for the family or not, I will continue to love my wives now and forever.
The First wife is the pillar that supports the foundation of the family and each additional wife has to fit in to continue to build upon that foundation. With out her as that support, the family is considerably weaker.
I have talked to many that are looking for there second wife, but I in fact believe it starts with the first wife as you need that foundation, that support to build your family upon. I also believe that a family foundation built upon the will of God it going to succeed where many will fail.
yes I am religious. The purpose of this blogging is not to stand on a soap box and preach, I don't intend to debate believes but I wont hid the fact that I follow the will of God as it is reveled to me. I don't seek wives cause of my belief, but God has blessed me with the ones I have as a reward for following his commandments.
So the answer at least for lies in the will of the Lord and building our family.
As for me, Yeah the idea of a fourth is appealing especially if it's the right woman. but i would want to make sure it's the right woman that God has picked out for us. What I desire and what God feels is best for my family and I could well be very different. Don't get me wrong, I love the wives that the Lord has chosen for me.
They each have their own style that is unique just to them. I wouldn't trad them for the world. Ann ,for her determination, she believed and stayed with me when most would have bailed. B-Leigh , for her youthful charm and carefree whims that sometimes annoy the others. J-Ann for her strong will, charming smile, and her organization skill. They are all beautiful and I do not compare them to each other. that would not be healthy.
No matter whether a fourth is chosen by God for the family or not, I will continue to love my wives now and forever.
The First wife is the pillar that supports the foundation of the family and each additional wife has to fit in to continue to build upon that foundation. With out her as that support, the family is considerably weaker.
I have talked to many that are looking for there second wife, but I in fact believe it starts with the first wife as you need that foundation, that support to build your family upon. I also believe that a family foundation built upon the will of God it going to succeed where many will fail.
yes I am religious. The purpose of this blogging is not to stand on a soap box and preach, I don't intend to debate believes but I wont hid the fact that I follow the will of God as it is reveled to me. I don't seek wives cause of my belief, but God has blessed me with the ones I have as a reward for following his commandments.
So the answer at least for lies in the will of the Lord and building our family.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Another Day Bog 2
Well we grilled out. Pork loin and vegetables. Victoria has been a bit antsy today. i think she is a bit nervous with school getting ready to start and now we have been having her work on assignments to get her into a routine. it's been another hot day out and that's kept most of the family penned indoors. We can't wait till the weather cools off.
I spent some time working on my blog page layout. I now have a search engine which will add people in looking for polygamy friendly sites. I hope it helps some.
Interestingly I talked to a friend today who thought that not only Polygamy was something neat but she was looking for a woman that is bi-sexual to join her and her husband. Interestingly she hung up on the having children issue. Most of the women that I talked to want children should they find a family. I imagine that there are woman out there that want to enjoy a relationship without children. some time ago I was talking to an older gal, who the wives shot down because of her age and the fact she couldn't have more children. That was before we married J-Ann into the family.
Seems crazy but we have been talking about a fourth. We don't know how that will go, as we wish to take this slower then we had in the past. But i am sure if God wills it then it will happen.
One of the things that comes to mind and most people ask is where did I find my wives. Before we had gone polygamist and we were dating B-Leigh, it was an interesting as we had an on again off again relationship with her. One of the biggest issues that she had was jealousy.
Jealousy is normal and something that has be address in a polygamist family. Allowed to fester it will infect the harmony of the family. The husband needs to understand that each wife no matter how open minded she is will go though jealousy from time to time. Patience is the best tool along with communication. The wives need to have some kind of Bonding experience on their own as well.
I spent some time working on my blog page layout. I now have a search engine which will add people in looking for polygamy friendly sites. I hope it helps some.
Interestingly I talked to a friend today who thought that not only Polygamy was something neat but she was looking for a woman that is bi-sexual to join her and her husband. Interestingly she hung up on the having children issue. Most of the women that I talked to want children should they find a family. I imagine that there are woman out there that want to enjoy a relationship without children. some time ago I was talking to an older gal, who the wives shot down because of her age and the fact she couldn't have more children. That was before we married J-Ann into the family.
Seems crazy but we have been talking about a fourth. We don't know how that will go, as we wish to take this slower then we had in the past. But i am sure if God wills it then it will happen.
One of the things that comes to mind and most people ask is where did I find my wives. Before we had gone polygamist and we were dating B-Leigh, it was an interesting as we had an on again off again relationship with her. One of the biggest issues that she had was jealousy.
Jealousy is normal and something that has be address in a polygamist family. Allowed to fester it will infect the harmony of the family. The husband needs to understand that each wife no matter how open minded she is will go though jealousy from time to time. Patience is the best tool along with communication. The wives need to have some kind of Bonding experience on their own as well.
Another day
Well we sit and wait to see if J-Ann get the job at the school. it's up to budget of a school board now. Willow was back here on Sunday night and the funny thing was Cameron missed her while she is gone but now that she is back the toddler wars begin anew. Victoria is getting ready to start school on the first. I am looking forward as it will provide a routine for her. She is A.D.H.D., so she needs that routine. Hope to post more as the day progress.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Monday Rambling
Well I am not sure where to start. A good friend suggested that I type more. So here it goes. a blah day. Willow is home safe and sound she came home Sunday night. Ange had her visit at the doctors and they are doing blood work to see about her blood sugar. We grilled out. Hamburgers and corn. We just throw the ears of corn on without shucking and let them cook on the grill. They taste good.
Then the elders from the church come over to talk to J-Ann about getting baptized the beginning of next month. After they left Ann and I checked the rats, We have four rats and one female been having problems with her teeth we have had to clip them and they were over grown. If we can't get them down were she can manage them on her own we might have to put her down.
The other animals that we have is a cat, two turtles, and fish. The Cat, Baxter, he thinks that he owns the family. he was here when we moved into the house. The prior squatters were going to give him to the Humane Society and he is a beautiful black cat. Khallus is my Snapping turtle. he is currently in a 75 gallon aquarium and needs a bigger tank. in the tank with Khallus is one good size Oscar and a goldfish. Khallus instinct to hunt has been suppressed due to me feeding him. the other turtle is a female painted turtle that we call Tink. She is in her own tank. I have another tank that i breed feeder fish, Namely Platties. All three of my tanks have an infestation of Guppies. The animals eat them when they were smaller but now for the most part leave them be. we also have to ferrets, Peanut and Papa.
Then the elders from the church come over to talk to J-Ann about getting baptized the beginning of next month. After they left Ann and I checked the rats, We have four rats and one female been having problems with her teeth we have had to clip them and they were over grown. If we can't get them down were she can manage them on her own we might have to put her down.
The other animals that we have is a cat, two turtles, and fish. The Cat, Baxter, he thinks that he owns the family. he was here when we moved into the house. The prior squatters were going to give him to the Humane Society and he is a beautiful black cat. Khallus is my Snapping turtle. he is currently in a 75 gallon aquarium and needs a bigger tank. in the tank with Khallus is one good size Oscar and a goldfish. Khallus instinct to hunt has been suppressed due to me feeding him. the other turtle is a female painted turtle that we call Tink. She is in her own tank. I have another tank that i breed feeder fish, Namely Platties. All three of my tanks have an infestation of Guppies. The animals eat them when they were smaller but now for the most part leave them be. we also have to ferrets, Peanut and Papa.
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Sabbath
Today has gone on as like another Sunday, but J-Ann and B-Leigh stayed home. it was just Ann, William, Cameron, and I. J-Ann's daughter Willow is with her father this weekend. his first visit with her. Right now J-Ann and Ann have gone to pick her up.
It's a warm and cloudy day here in Wisconsin. Thought Race through my mind as I talked to friends and family today.
J-Ann, it looks as if she will be getting a full time teaching job. Next Week is defiantly be a busy week as we get Victoria ready for school.The normal stuff like paying the bills, and work to be done around the house is also on my mind.
On this Sabbath, I also think about how blessed I am. Yes this isn't quit your normal Family, but again in this day and age with decaying values of society what is Normal. There is a lot of love in this family. yeah we get on each others nerves at time but we don't really fight at all. that is better then most monogamous marriages that I know of. Perhaps we don't fight as I accept my wives for who they are and not try to change them or cuase problems.
Ann may be diabetic, something that is scaring her. During her pregnancy with William she was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. She got one of those do dads gadgets that she can check her sugar level. Well she did they other day and it was up to 240. normal is around 100. She got it back down but the idea that her life has to change is scaring her. She like her brownies and sweets way too much. We will go to see our family doctor to get her tested for it of course.
I myself have a ton of work to do here in the next few days. i got to fine tun my resume to hopefully get a stable job. Seems like the hardest thing to do in this economy. I have done maintenance jobs short term for companies that were supplying materiel for the B.P. oil spill. Well that has dried up as we have been told that it's over.
Fortunately I replenished our savings so that we can hold on for a while.
It's a warm and cloudy day here in Wisconsin. Thought Race through my mind as I talked to friends and family today.
J-Ann, it looks as if she will be getting a full time teaching job. Next Week is defiantly be a busy week as we get Victoria ready for school.The normal stuff like paying the bills, and work to be done around the house is also on my mind.
On this Sabbath, I also think about how blessed I am. Yes this isn't quit your normal Family, but again in this day and age with decaying values of society what is Normal. There is a lot of love in this family. yeah we get on each others nerves at time but we don't really fight at all. that is better then most monogamous marriages that I know of. Perhaps we don't fight as I accept my wives for who they are and not try to change them or cuase problems.
Ann may be diabetic, something that is scaring her. During her pregnancy with William she was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. She got one of those do dads gadgets that she can check her sugar level. Well she did they other day and it was up to 240. normal is around 100. She got it back down but the idea that her life has to change is scaring her. She like her brownies and sweets way too much. We will go to see our family doctor to get her tested for it of course.
I myself have a ton of work to do here in the next few days. i got to fine tun my resume to hopefully get a stable job. Seems like the hardest thing to do in this economy. I have done maintenance jobs short term for companies that were supplying materiel for the B.P. oil spill. Well that has dried up as we have been told that it's over.
Fortunately I replenished our savings so that we can hold on for a while.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Wife in Passing
Wendie was a woman that I met on my space actually though own your friends apps. She was in the army stationed over seas, but we managed a lot of talking online and a few phone calls. We got close. I wasn't aware of how close as Wendie like to keep me guessing. Who she was was what made her special to me. To be honest I forgot how long we had been talking.
Wendie informed me that she was going to get stationed Stateside. She also said that it would be good as we could meet in person and get to know each other.
She sounded real positive. I was looking forward to us meeting. She already knew that I was Legally married to Ann and the I had B-Leigh as a second wife. She was okay with all that and Polygamy in General.
Then the unthinkable happened. her my space page was deleted and she stopped talking. I figured that she had blown me off and when learned the truth it would have been easier if she had. I saw one of Wendie's friend post a happy birthday Wendie R.I.P. I eventually talked to another of her friends who informed me of the news that she was involved in a car accident and didn't make it.
I was stunned. I don't know how to put it in words of how I felt. I would learn by talking to her family that the only reason she took orders to come stateside was to get closer to me. her brother said that she even turn down a promotion to get stationed in the U.S.
It was wonderful to hear what she was saying about me and what she told her family she felt. But, if God had granted me to know what they future held for her I would have told her to stay over seas. I couldn't have known, that was true, but I can Pray for her and her family.
I think about Wendie often and look at her pictures. There will never be anyone that holds the same kind of charm, nor can be the same kind of woman.
I also think what being Polygamy means. it isn't a life style it's a life that I have chosen to live and that those loved one that their lives are changed. I like to think for the better. Polygamy , responsible polygamy is realizing that, us men are held accountable for our actions. That we are granted blessing by taking care of our families.
I will always keep Wendie in my heart and pray that When I cross the veil that it the Lords will that I will meet up with her.
Wendie informed me that she was going to get stationed Stateside. She also said that it would be good as we could meet in person and get to know each other.
She sounded real positive. I was looking forward to us meeting. She already knew that I was Legally married to Ann and the I had B-Leigh as a second wife. She was okay with all that and Polygamy in General.
Then the unthinkable happened. her my space page was deleted and she stopped talking. I figured that she had blown me off and when learned the truth it would have been easier if she had. I saw one of Wendie's friend post a happy birthday Wendie R.I.P. I eventually talked to another of her friends who informed me of the news that she was involved in a car accident and didn't make it.
I was stunned. I don't know how to put it in words of how I felt. I would learn by talking to her family that the only reason she took orders to come stateside was to get closer to me. her brother said that she even turn down a promotion to get stationed in the U.S.
It was wonderful to hear what she was saying about me and what she told her family she felt. But, if God had granted me to know what they future held for her I would have told her to stay over seas. I couldn't have known, that was true, but I can Pray for her and her family.
I think about Wendie often and look at her pictures. There will never be anyone that holds the same kind of charm, nor can be the same kind of woman.
I also think what being Polygamy means. it isn't a life style it's a life that I have chosen to live and that those loved one that their lives are changed. I like to think for the better. Polygamy , responsible polygamy is realizing that, us men are held accountable for our actions. That we are granted blessing by taking care of our families.
I will always keep Wendie in my heart and pray that When I cross the veil that it the Lords will that I will meet up with her.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
terror of 2 year olds.
Well the other day my father in-law got out a toy jeep that Ann's older son drove when he was a child. it's a fisher price power wheels Jeep that I only had to buy new batteries for. $84 and we were up and running. well I put the batteries in and took it out to the front. J-Ann's daughter Willow jumped in the driver seat and after I told her to push the pedal the jeep jumped forward, she hasn't got the knack of steering yet. mind you she is only two. I had the lever in fast, so she was going like a mad woman. Then my 2 year old son Cameron climb in the passenger seat. It was a trip watching these two try to drive around the sidewalk trying to steer, still in high gear.. Cameron just hung on for dear life. But had a smile on his face.
We talk about many topics but working together as a family and watching our children grow is the biggest blessing of being the DH of this family.
I am sure there will be many more adventures with the jeep to come, as there are four in this household under the age of five.
We talk about many topics but working together as a family and watching our children grow is the biggest blessing of being the DH of this family.
I am sure there will be many more adventures with the jeep to come, as there are four in this household under the age of five.
How to
I get a lot of "hey how did you do it". The truth of the matter, I believe is that I rely on God's will to direct my building my family. First off with my First wife it was easy to come to an agreement on the second wife. I met her goofing off on a 3D chat called IMVU. It was pretty funny in a way as I was role playing my avatar and accidentally ran across her. I wasn't even serious at the time as I was thinking that a woman that young would not be interested in a poly life style, she was 19 at the time. when we got to Wife number three I was talking to a different woman and just answered J-Ann's email to biblical families. I simply told her if she wanted to ask about Poly talk to my wives.
I have learned it not where to look it's how you look for a woman to join your family. What works for me is to have the whole family involved. I have noticed that some men wives are the quiet type or don't post. Also if your wife is not 100% on board then your going to have problems Good communication with the first wife is a must. I have seen people that have not had that and then they wonder why they can't get another wife or they get the wrong one.
You have to also think how another woman is going to fit in to your life. most guys won't have an issue with the having sex and depending on her sexual orientation and your your first wife, the sleeping arrangement. i think threesomes and moresomes are the fantasy of most men and if the wife is Bi Sexual and so is the potential wife then they think they are in heaven.
However, marriage is not all about sex, any monogamous man and woman will tell you that and a marriage poly or other wise based on sex is going to fail. Look at the divorce rate in our country for that conclusion.
What I mean by fitting into your life is that you and your #1 wife sit and talk about why you need another wife. Is it religious? Is it the desire to have a big family? Or do you simply enjoyed women and want to have a few to around to help with the kids and the house work?
It may sound a bit off the track here but discussing with your #1 wife this and other details lays the foundation for your future family. This becomes important as women looking to join a family wants certain things in life, Security, family, and perhaps to have children of her own.the issue comes on how your family looks to a potential wife. After all you are looking at marrying a second wife and bringing her into your family.
How it works in our family is that we don't have any ranking among the wives. I have my first wife who is legally married and then there is the other two who are considered legally just girlfriends. I am a big fan of big love but when we choose a different model that seems to work in our family. J-Ann acts more like the alpha female then the third wife it seems, but her gift to the family is that she is good at cooking and running a house.She has completed us and brought harmony to our home. ( The cooking is awesome).
As far as the Nights go I rotate between rooms on a schedule unless the wives change it for some reason. So i get told where I sleep for the night, which is fine by me.
Running of the household I leave to the wives as a group. I do talk to them as a group and individually so I know whats going on in my house. I take an active part in the raising of the children and conversations about how they are doing, concerns, and, other issues. I would say that family meetings once a week and then lots of conversations through out the week. Running a poly family with three wives and five kids takes a lot of work, and not just money. So in a nutshell U spend time dealing with emotional matters as well.
The trick is to find that woman that will fit into your family. There are a number of Poly chats that you can look into but also you have a host of other families that are also looking. I have seen other wise good women scared away by seemingly married men hunting for a trophy to shelve next to there current wife.
I have found my wives on my space, IMVU, and bible families emails. I wasn't really trying to get there interest either it just happen in a way that I believe it was God's will. Seems like every time I try to get a woman's attention that I am sure to fail.
Yes I believe that living plural marriage is a calling from God. unlike some I do not think living my marriage is a right to my religious view. It is a Blessing from God for following his commandments.
I have learned it not where to look it's how you look for a woman to join your family. What works for me is to have the whole family involved. I have noticed that some men wives are the quiet type or don't post. Also if your wife is not 100% on board then your going to have problems Good communication with the first wife is a must. I have seen people that have not had that and then they wonder why they can't get another wife or they get the wrong one.
You have to also think how another woman is going to fit in to your life. most guys won't have an issue with the having sex and depending on her sexual orientation and your your first wife, the sleeping arrangement. i think threesomes and moresomes are the fantasy of most men and if the wife is Bi Sexual and so is the potential wife then they think they are in heaven.
However, marriage is not all about sex, any monogamous man and woman will tell you that and a marriage poly or other wise based on sex is going to fail. Look at the divorce rate in our country for that conclusion.
What I mean by fitting into your life is that you and your #1 wife sit and talk about why you need another wife. Is it religious? Is it the desire to have a big family? Or do you simply enjoyed women and want to have a few to around to help with the kids and the house work?
It may sound a bit off the track here but discussing with your #1 wife this and other details lays the foundation for your future family. This becomes important as women looking to join a family wants certain things in life, Security, family, and perhaps to have children of her own.the issue comes on how your family looks to a potential wife. After all you are looking at marrying a second wife and bringing her into your family.
How it works in our family is that we don't have any ranking among the wives. I have my first wife who is legally married and then there is the other two who are considered legally just girlfriends. I am a big fan of big love but when we choose a different model that seems to work in our family. J-Ann acts more like the alpha female then the third wife it seems, but her gift to the family is that she is good at cooking and running a house.She has completed us and brought harmony to our home. ( The cooking is awesome).
As far as the Nights go I rotate between rooms on a schedule unless the wives change it for some reason. So i get told where I sleep for the night, which is fine by me.
Running of the household I leave to the wives as a group. I do talk to them as a group and individually so I know whats going on in my house. I take an active part in the raising of the children and conversations about how they are doing, concerns, and, other issues. I would say that family meetings once a week and then lots of conversations through out the week. Running a poly family with three wives and five kids takes a lot of work, and not just money. So in a nutshell U spend time dealing with emotional matters as well.
The trick is to find that woman that will fit into your family. There are a number of Poly chats that you can look into but also you have a host of other families that are also looking. I have seen other wise good women scared away by seemingly married men hunting for a trophy to shelve next to there current wife.
I have found my wives on my space, IMVU, and bible families emails. I wasn't really trying to get there interest either it just happen in a way that I believe it was God's will. Seems like every time I try to get a woman's attention that I am sure to fail.
Yes I believe that living plural marriage is a calling from God. unlike some I do not think living my marriage is a right to my religious view. It is a Blessing from God for following his commandments.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Polygamy and Family trails
Why is polygamy such an evil word and that when mention it people conjure up the idea of sex abuse, manipulation and other nasty thoughts that is related to the Media's coverage of the FLDS.
Without getting to know the real situation people just jump to conclusions or the idea of non-Consenting children being abused or being raised to be abused.
*Note that Consenting which by definition means of legal age in this case*
Unfortunately in our society it is okay for a married man to have sex with another woman along as he doe's not take responsibility for his action or walk away from his responsibility to his family.
Abortion, unwed pregnancies, and the deterioration of the family unit, take the back burner while arguments over same sex marriages are is in the news. We hear about the ungodly behavior of the FLDS and Label anything that we do not understand as bad for society.
J-Ann's Ex ,the guy that she is still legally married too, is arguing that he intend to take custody of her daughter Willow. What makes this disgusting is that he literally abandon J-Ann and Willow when she was a baby and hasn't been in his daughters life for a year in a half. his only reason is cause he got a girlfriend. in that year and a half he hasn't paid one bit of support and of anything toward taking care of his legal wife and child.
Now that she is in a loving relationship he crawls out from under his rock to tell her what she is doing is wrong and that now he intend to be a father and prevent willow from being raised in the household as it stands now.
I take responsibility for my actions and family. When we accepted J-Ann into the family we accepted willow. All the of my wives are of legal age and I stay away from FLDS people who condone child brides and promote manipulation of their. families. We live independent and in a quiet neighbor hood where we go about living quite lives. the oldest my daughter Torrie goes to a public school and see a doctor for ADHD. Those that are required to know know of who we are and we haven't tried to hid it from the officials as we go about our business. They have a not really interested approach.
However the threats that come from the J-ann's divorce and child custody battle may just force us more into the lime light and as such I am not afraid to stand up for what I believe.
Maybe that will make Headlines, "Deadbeat Dad fight responsible Polygamist for custody of child.
Without getting to know the real situation people just jump to conclusions or the idea of non-Consenting children being abused or being raised to be abused.
*Note that Consenting which by definition means of legal age in this case*
Unfortunately in our society it is okay for a married man to have sex with another woman along as he doe's not take responsibility for his action or walk away from his responsibility to his family.
Abortion, unwed pregnancies, and the deterioration of the family unit, take the back burner while arguments over same sex marriages are is in the news. We hear about the ungodly behavior of the FLDS and Label anything that we do not understand as bad for society.
J-Ann's Ex ,the guy that she is still legally married too, is arguing that he intend to take custody of her daughter Willow. What makes this disgusting is that he literally abandon J-Ann and Willow when she was a baby and hasn't been in his daughters life for a year in a half. his only reason is cause he got a girlfriend. in that year and a half he hasn't paid one bit of support and of anything toward taking care of his legal wife and child.
Now that she is in a loving relationship he crawls out from under his rock to tell her what she is doing is wrong and that now he intend to be a father and prevent willow from being raised in the household as it stands now.
I take responsibility for my actions and family. When we accepted J-Ann into the family we accepted willow. All the of my wives are of legal age and I stay away from FLDS people who condone child brides and promote manipulation of their. families. We live independent and in a quiet neighbor hood where we go about living quite lives. the oldest my daughter Torrie goes to a public school and see a doctor for ADHD. Those that are required to know know of who we are and we haven't tried to hid it from the officials as we go about our business. They have a not really interested approach.
However the threats that come from the J-ann's divorce and child custody battle may just force us more into the lime light and as such I am not afraid to stand up for what I believe.
Maybe that will make Headlines, "Deadbeat Dad fight responsible Polygamist for custody of child.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Family
A good friend of mine asked me to give my perspective on balancing three wives and n how your older children are adapting to your new lifestyle.
Well I wouldn't call it new as we have been living polygamist for almost two years and with B-Leigh I have a 7 month old son.
Torie who is my oldest daughter adjust to it quite well and in fact Enjoys being with B-Leigh and J-Ann. She love watching Movies with B-Leigh and does talk with J-Ann. as far as my sons they are too young to really care lol.
J-Ann has one daughter, who is 2. She don't like to share and full of energy and already calls me Dad. She love having Torie as a big sister. however she does ask to see her grandma ever now and then.
As for the balancing part, that can be interesting at times. Well the wives rotate their nights so each night I am in a different bedroom. It isn't all about Sex as most think. and Yes to answer your question I get a lot of it but then again I have three wives. I manage to keep up.
But as marriage in a monogamous relationship there is more to the marriage then the marriage bed. there is emotional issue to deal with, Kids to raise, and finances to be concern about.
Each woman has her own personality and needs that must be met. Ann is the stay at home Mom, while B-Leigh is the student in college and J-Ann is hoping to have a job here soon.
There is always something going on with the kids. Torrie starts school here soon and J-Ann wants to start teaching the two year old.
Well I wouldn't call it new as we have been living polygamist for almost two years and with B-Leigh I have a 7 month old son.
Torie who is my oldest daughter adjust to it quite well and in fact Enjoys being with B-Leigh and J-Ann. She love watching Movies with B-Leigh and does talk with J-Ann. as far as my sons they are too young to really care lol.
J-Ann has one daughter, who is 2. She don't like to share and full of energy and already calls me Dad. She love having Torie as a big sister. however she does ask to see her grandma ever now and then.
As for the balancing part, that can be interesting at times. Well the wives rotate their nights so each night I am in a different bedroom. It isn't all about Sex as most think. and Yes to answer your question I get a lot of it but then again I have three wives. I manage to keep up.
But as marriage in a monogamous relationship there is more to the marriage then the marriage bed. there is emotional issue to deal with, Kids to raise, and finances to be concern about.
Each woman has her own personality and needs that must be met. Ann is the stay at home Mom, while B-Leigh is the student in college and J-Ann is hoping to have a job here soon.
There is always something going on with the kids. Torrie starts school here soon and J-Ann wants to start teaching the two year old.
Monday, August 9, 2010
The honey to do-list
One thing about working third shift is that things pile up real fast. now that the job ended and I am home bound waiting for the next assignment I start doing things around the house. Today I pretty much took a break as I had been working on the Arbor in the garden that we have in the back yard. I cut down the dead tree in the front yard and planted a pine tree. with the wood I am building the Arbor. I will post pictures when it closer to completion.
Tomorrow it will trim the trees in the backyard and work on the arbor...
Tomorrow it will trim the trees in the backyard and work on the arbor...
Introduction
Well here it goes. I am 45 and the Husband of three wonderful wives. Ann, B-Leigh, and J-Ann in the wonderful state of Wisconsin.
There is a few ex's in the mix but to understand this better it is best to explain the prehistory. about four years ago I was monogamous marriage to a nutty woman named Kate. We were separated at the time to to some mental issues that Kate had that she couldn't take care of her children from a previous relationship. A couple that we knew in Janesville offered to have her stay with them to give her a rest from the children but the shocker was that Kate began having affairs with the couple and other men. I started to go my way figuring the marriage was doomed. I met Ann, and we had some romantic times and she also was great with my daughter that was 6 at the time.
The daughter Victoria was mine via another relationship and not kate. the wonderful thing was that Kate's children went to live with their real father who is the primary caretaker of the children to this day.
Back to the story. When Kate's children biological father decided to take custody of the kids and take her to court Kate tried to reconcile with me and I found out Ann was pregnant with my son Cameron. Kate was claiming that she was pregnant with triplets and the story kept changing on who the father was. Confronted with this dilemma, Ann offered to become poly wife #2, but Kate wouldn't have any of it and tried to run off . Long story short I filed for divorce from Kate. there was a question o her really being pregnant to begin with.
She only showed up for one court hearing and avoided the rest. All I had to prove was that Kate knew of the hearing and that she wasn't pregnant.
Both were relatively easy to accomplish and since she wasn't in court I claimed what I and Ann wanted and disposed of the rest.
While we were going though this I though prayer was directed by God to look into Mormonism and began my testimony.
Ann and I did marry legally but before we tied the knot we were dating B-Leigh with the potential of becoming wife #2. that was November 22 2008. a few months later B as we call her moved in as well.
Two months ago through the biblical families email chats I met J-Ann. She moved in two weeks later..
We moved to a four bedroom house with a backyard in a nice suburban neighborhood.
our current family consist of the three wives and five children ages 9, two at 2 years and a 7 month old from B-Leigh and a 5 month old from Ann. in addition to that we have a cat name Baxter, he came with the house, and four rats. I have two turtles, one Oscar, one Goldfish, a small family of Platties and a few hundred guppies which continue to procreate.
As a family we have faced many challenges due to our chosen lifestyle. Ann's Mother practically disowned her and Ann teenage son defected to his Grandmothers camp. B-Leigh's mother tries to get her to move back in with her and we have an interesting brush of opinions while I was courting B-Leigh. the one thing that both of the first two wives mothers have in common is their anger and hatred of me.
Ann's Mothers hatred ran so deep that it literately burnt her up in the form of cancer and she died before her second grandson was born.
J-Ann's parents have just stopped talking to her when they found out that we are polygamist. They have raised a bit of a stir.
One thing is for sure the amount of love these woman have for me and that I am blessed. They have gone through and continue to go though to be in the family.
i will continue to post more as I go along so stay tuned....
There is a few ex's in the mix but to understand this better it is best to explain the prehistory. about four years ago I was monogamous marriage to a nutty woman named Kate. We were separated at the time to to some mental issues that Kate had that she couldn't take care of her children from a previous relationship. A couple that we knew in Janesville offered to have her stay with them to give her a rest from the children but the shocker was that Kate began having affairs with the couple and other men. I started to go my way figuring the marriage was doomed. I met Ann, and we had some romantic times and she also was great with my daughter that was 6 at the time.
The daughter Victoria was mine via another relationship and not kate. the wonderful thing was that Kate's children went to live with their real father who is the primary caretaker of the children to this day.
Back to the story. When Kate's children biological father decided to take custody of the kids and take her to court Kate tried to reconcile with me and I found out Ann was pregnant with my son Cameron. Kate was claiming that she was pregnant with triplets and the story kept changing on who the father was. Confronted with this dilemma, Ann offered to become poly wife #2, but Kate wouldn't have any of it and tried to run off . Long story short I filed for divorce from Kate. there was a question o her really being pregnant to begin with.
She only showed up for one court hearing and avoided the rest. All I had to prove was that Kate knew of the hearing and that she wasn't pregnant.
Both were relatively easy to accomplish and since she wasn't in court I claimed what I and Ann wanted and disposed of the rest.
While we were going though this I though prayer was directed by God to look into Mormonism and began my testimony.
Ann and I did marry legally but before we tied the knot we were dating B-Leigh with the potential of becoming wife #2. that was November 22 2008. a few months later B as we call her moved in as well.
Two months ago through the biblical families email chats I met J-Ann. She moved in two weeks later..
We moved to a four bedroom house with a backyard in a nice suburban neighborhood.
our current family consist of the three wives and five children ages 9, two at 2 years and a 7 month old from B-Leigh and a 5 month old from Ann. in addition to that we have a cat name Baxter, he came with the house, and four rats. I have two turtles, one Oscar, one Goldfish, a small family of Platties and a few hundred guppies which continue to procreate.
As a family we have faced many challenges due to our chosen lifestyle. Ann's Mother practically disowned her and Ann teenage son defected to his Grandmothers camp. B-Leigh's mother tries to get her to move back in with her and we have an interesting brush of opinions while I was courting B-Leigh. the one thing that both of the first two wives mothers have in common is their anger and hatred of me.
Ann's Mothers hatred ran so deep that it literately burnt her up in the form of cancer and she died before her second grandson was born.
J-Ann's parents have just stopped talking to her when they found out that we are polygamist. They have raised a bit of a stir.
One thing is for sure the amount of love these woman have for me and that I am blessed. They have gone through and continue to go though to be in the family.
i will continue to post more as I go along so stay tuned....
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