Well there has been some talk in my family about adding another wife. I think that is left up to God himself as we go on our path. J-Ann, sees a fourth wife and B-Leigh would love to have a sister wife her age. ( It's hard for her to make friends outside the family) Ann is getting warmed up to the idea, as long as it isn't rushed too fast.
As for me, Yeah the idea of a fourth is appealing especially if it's the right woman. but i would want to make sure it's the right woman that God has picked out for us. What I desire and what God feels is best for my family and I could well be very different. Don't get me wrong, I love the wives that the Lord has chosen for me.
They each have their own style that is unique just to them. I wouldn't trad them for the world. Ann ,for her determination, she believed and stayed with me when most would have bailed. B-Leigh , for her youthful charm and carefree whims that sometimes annoy the others. J-Ann for her strong will, charming smile, and her organization skill. They are all beautiful and I do not compare them to each other. that would not be healthy.
No matter whether a fourth is chosen by God for the family or not, I will continue to love my wives now and forever.
The First wife is the pillar that supports the foundation of the family and each additional wife has to fit in to continue to build upon that foundation. With out her as that support, the family is considerably weaker.
I have talked to many that are looking for there second wife, but I in fact believe it starts with the first wife as you need that foundation, that support to build your family upon. I also believe that a family foundation built upon the will of God it going to succeed where many will fail.
yes I am religious. The purpose of this blogging is not to stand on a soap box and preach, I don't intend to debate believes but I wont hid the fact that I follow the will of God as it is reveled to me. I don't seek wives cause of my belief, but God has blessed me with the ones I have as a reward for following his commandments.
So the answer at least for lies in the will of the Lord and building our family.
Monday, August 30, 2010
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Another Day Bog 2
Well we grilled out. Pork loin and vegetables. Victoria has been a bit antsy today. i think she is a bit nervous with school getting ready to start and now we have been having her work on assignments to get her into a routine. it's been another hot day out and that's kept most of the family penned indoors. We can't wait till the weather cools off.
I spent some time working on my blog page layout. I now have a search engine which will add people in looking for polygamy friendly sites. I hope it helps some.
Interestingly I talked to a friend today who thought that not only Polygamy was something neat but she was looking for a woman that is bi-sexual to join her and her husband. Interestingly she hung up on the having children issue. Most of the women that I talked to want children should they find a family. I imagine that there are woman out there that want to enjoy a relationship without children. some time ago I was talking to an older gal, who the wives shot down because of her age and the fact she couldn't have more children. That was before we married J-Ann into the family.
Seems crazy but we have been talking about a fourth. We don't know how that will go, as we wish to take this slower then we had in the past. But i am sure if God wills it then it will happen.
One of the things that comes to mind and most people ask is where did I find my wives. Before we had gone polygamist and we were dating B-Leigh, it was an interesting as we had an on again off again relationship with her. One of the biggest issues that she had was jealousy.
Jealousy is normal and something that has be address in a polygamist family. Allowed to fester it will infect the harmony of the family. The husband needs to understand that each wife no matter how open minded she is will go though jealousy from time to time. Patience is the best tool along with communication. The wives need to have some kind of Bonding experience on their own as well.
I spent some time working on my blog page layout. I now have a search engine which will add people in looking for polygamy friendly sites. I hope it helps some.
Interestingly I talked to a friend today who thought that not only Polygamy was something neat but she was looking for a woman that is bi-sexual to join her and her husband. Interestingly she hung up on the having children issue. Most of the women that I talked to want children should they find a family. I imagine that there are woman out there that want to enjoy a relationship without children. some time ago I was talking to an older gal, who the wives shot down because of her age and the fact she couldn't have more children. That was before we married J-Ann into the family.
Seems crazy but we have been talking about a fourth. We don't know how that will go, as we wish to take this slower then we had in the past. But i am sure if God wills it then it will happen.
One of the things that comes to mind and most people ask is where did I find my wives. Before we had gone polygamist and we were dating B-Leigh, it was an interesting as we had an on again off again relationship with her. One of the biggest issues that she had was jealousy.
Jealousy is normal and something that has be address in a polygamist family. Allowed to fester it will infect the harmony of the family. The husband needs to understand that each wife no matter how open minded she is will go though jealousy from time to time. Patience is the best tool along with communication. The wives need to have some kind of Bonding experience on their own as well.
Another day
Well we sit and wait to see if J-Ann get the job at the school. it's up to budget of a school board now. Willow was back here on Sunday night and the funny thing was Cameron missed her while she is gone but now that she is back the toddler wars begin anew. Victoria is getting ready to start school on the first. I am looking forward as it will provide a routine for her. She is A.D.H.D., so she needs that routine. Hope to post more as the day progress.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Monday Rambling
Well I am not sure where to start. A good friend suggested that I type more. So here it goes. a blah day. Willow is home safe and sound she came home Sunday night. Ange had her visit at the doctors and they are doing blood work to see about her blood sugar. We grilled out. Hamburgers and corn. We just throw the ears of corn on without shucking and let them cook on the grill. They taste good.
Then the elders from the church come over to talk to J-Ann about getting baptized the beginning of next month. After they left Ann and I checked the rats, We have four rats and one female been having problems with her teeth we have had to clip them and they were over grown. If we can't get them down were she can manage them on her own we might have to put her down.
The other animals that we have is a cat, two turtles, and fish. The Cat, Baxter, he thinks that he owns the family. he was here when we moved into the house. The prior squatters were going to give him to the Humane Society and he is a beautiful black cat. Khallus is my Snapping turtle. he is currently in a 75 gallon aquarium and needs a bigger tank. in the tank with Khallus is one good size Oscar and a goldfish. Khallus instinct to hunt has been suppressed due to me feeding him. the other turtle is a female painted turtle that we call Tink. She is in her own tank. I have another tank that i breed feeder fish, Namely Platties. All three of my tanks have an infestation of Guppies. The animals eat them when they were smaller but now for the most part leave them be. we also have to ferrets, Peanut and Papa.
Then the elders from the church come over to talk to J-Ann about getting baptized the beginning of next month. After they left Ann and I checked the rats, We have four rats and one female been having problems with her teeth we have had to clip them and they were over grown. If we can't get them down were she can manage them on her own we might have to put her down.
The other animals that we have is a cat, two turtles, and fish. The Cat, Baxter, he thinks that he owns the family. he was here when we moved into the house. The prior squatters were going to give him to the Humane Society and he is a beautiful black cat. Khallus is my Snapping turtle. he is currently in a 75 gallon aquarium and needs a bigger tank. in the tank with Khallus is one good size Oscar and a goldfish. Khallus instinct to hunt has been suppressed due to me feeding him. the other turtle is a female painted turtle that we call Tink. She is in her own tank. I have another tank that i breed feeder fish, Namely Platties. All three of my tanks have an infestation of Guppies. The animals eat them when they were smaller but now for the most part leave them be. we also have to ferrets, Peanut and Papa.
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Sabbath
Today has gone on as like another Sunday, but J-Ann and B-Leigh stayed home. it was just Ann, William, Cameron, and I. J-Ann's daughter Willow is with her father this weekend. his first visit with her. Right now J-Ann and Ann have gone to pick her up.
It's a warm and cloudy day here in Wisconsin. Thought Race through my mind as I talked to friends and family today.
J-Ann, it looks as if she will be getting a full time teaching job. Next Week is defiantly be a busy week as we get Victoria ready for school.The normal stuff like paying the bills, and work to be done around the house is also on my mind.
On this Sabbath, I also think about how blessed I am. Yes this isn't quit your normal Family, but again in this day and age with decaying values of society what is Normal. There is a lot of love in this family. yeah we get on each others nerves at time but we don't really fight at all. that is better then most monogamous marriages that I know of. Perhaps we don't fight as I accept my wives for who they are and not try to change them or cuase problems.
Ann may be diabetic, something that is scaring her. During her pregnancy with William she was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. She got one of those do dads gadgets that she can check her sugar level. Well she did they other day and it was up to 240. normal is around 100. She got it back down but the idea that her life has to change is scaring her. She like her brownies and sweets way too much. We will go to see our family doctor to get her tested for it of course.
I myself have a ton of work to do here in the next few days. i got to fine tun my resume to hopefully get a stable job. Seems like the hardest thing to do in this economy. I have done maintenance jobs short term for companies that were supplying materiel for the B.P. oil spill. Well that has dried up as we have been told that it's over.
Fortunately I replenished our savings so that we can hold on for a while.
It's a warm and cloudy day here in Wisconsin. Thought Race through my mind as I talked to friends and family today.
J-Ann, it looks as if she will be getting a full time teaching job. Next Week is defiantly be a busy week as we get Victoria ready for school.The normal stuff like paying the bills, and work to be done around the house is also on my mind.
On this Sabbath, I also think about how blessed I am. Yes this isn't quit your normal Family, but again in this day and age with decaying values of society what is Normal. There is a lot of love in this family. yeah we get on each others nerves at time but we don't really fight at all. that is better then most monogamous marriages that I know of. Perhaps we don't fight as I accept my wives for who they are and not try to change them or cuase problems.
Ann may be diabetic, something that is scaring her. During her pregnancy with William she was diagnosed with gestational diabetes. She got one of those do dads gadgets that she can check her sugar level. Well she did they other day and it was up to 240. normal is around 100. She got it back down but the idea that her life has to change is scaring her. She like her brownies and sweets way too much. We will go to see our family doctor to get her tested for it of course.
I myself have a ton of work to do here in the next few days. i got to fine tun my resume to hopefully get a stable job. Seems like the hardest thing to do in this economy. I have done maintenance jobs short term for companies that were supplying materiel for the B.P. oil spill. Well that has dried up as we have been told that it's over.
Fortunately I replenished our savings so that we can hold on for a while.
Friday, August 20, 2010
Wife in Passing
Wendie was a woman that I met on my space actually though own your friends apps. She was in the army stationed over seas, but we managed a lot of talking online and a few phone calls. We got close. I wasn't aware of how close as Wendie like to keep me guessing. Who she was was what made her special to me. To be honest I forgot how long we had been talking.
Wendie informed me that she was going to get stationed Stateside. She also said that it would be good as we could meet in person and get to know each other.
She sounded real positive. I was looking forward to us meeting. She already knew that I was Legally married to Ann and the I had B-Leigh as a second wife. She was okay with all that and Polygamy in General.
Then the unthinkable happened. her my space page was deleted and she stopped talking. I figured that she had blown me off and when learned the truth it would have been easier if she had. I saw one of Wendie's friend post a happy birthday Wendie R.I.P. I eventually talked to another of her friends who informed me of the news that she was involved in a car accident and didn't make it.
I was stunned. I don't know how to put it in words of how I felt. I would learn by talking to her family that the only reason she took orders to come stateside was to get closer to me. her brother said that she even turn down a promotion to get stationed in the U.S.
It was wonderful to hear what she was saying about me and what she told her family she felt. But, if God had granted me to know what they future held for her I would have told her to stay over seas. I couldn't have known, that was true, but I can Pray for her and her family.
I think about Wendie often and look at her pictures. There will never be anyone that holds the same kind of charm, nor can be the same kind of woman.
I also think what being Polygamy means. it isn't a life style it's a life that I have chosen to live and that those loved one that their lives are changed. I like to think for the better. Polygamy , responsible polygamy is realizing that, us men are held accountable for our actions. That we are granted blessing by taking care of our families.
I will always keep Wendie in my heart and pray that When I cross the veil that it the Lords will that I will meet up with her.
Wendie informed me that she was going to get stationed Stateside. She also said that it would be good as we could meet in person and get to know each other.
She sounded real positive. I was looking forward to us meeting. She already knew that I was Legally married to Ann and the I had B-Leigh as a second wife. She was okay with all that and Polygamy in General.
Then the unthinkable happened. her my space page was deleted and she stopped talking. I figured that she had blown me off and when learned the truth it would have been easier if she had. I saw one of Wendie's friend post a happy birthday Wendie R.I.P. I eventually talked to another of her friends who informed me of the news that she was involved in a car accident and didn't make it.
I was stunned. I don't know how to put it in words of how I felt. I would learn by talking to her family that the only reason she took orders to come stateside was to get closer to me. her brother said that she even turn down a promotion to get stationed in the U.S.
It was wonderful to hear what she was saying about me and what she told her family she felt. But, if God had granted me to know what they future held for her I would have told her to stay over seas. I couldn't have known, that was true, but I can Pray for her and her family.
I think about Wendie often and look at her pictures. There will never be anyone that holds the same kind of charm, nor can be the same kind of woman.
I also think what being Polygamy means. it isn't a life style it's a life that I have chosen to live and that those loved one that their lives are changed. I like to think for the better. Polygamy , responsible polygamy is realizing that, us men are held accountable for our actions. That we are granted blessing by taking care of our families.
I will always keep Wendie in my heart and pray that When I cross the veil that it the Lords will that I will meet up with her.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
terror of 2 year olds.
Well the other day my father in-law got out a toy jeep that Ann's older son drove when he was a child. it's a fisher price power wheels Jeep that I only had to buy new batteries for. $84 and we were up and running. well I put the batteries in and took it out to the front. J-Ann's daughter Willow jumped in the driver seat and after I told her to push the pedal the jeep jumped forward, she hasn't got the knack of steering yet. mind you she is only two. I had the lever in fast, so she was going like a mad woman. Then my 2 year old son Cameron climb in the passenger seat. It was a trip watching these two try to drive around the sidewalk trying to steer, still in high gear.. Cameron just hung on for dear life. But had a smile on his face.
We talk about many topics but working together as a family and watching our children grow is the biggest blessing of being the DH of this family.
I am sure there will be many more adventures with the jeep to come, as there are four in this household under the age of five.
We talk about many topics but working together as a family and watching our children grow is the biggest blessing of being the DH of this family.
I am sure there will be many more adventures with the jeep to come, as there are four in this household under the age of five.
How to
I get a lot of "hey how did you do it". The truth of the matter, I believe is that I rely on God's will to direct my building my family. First off with my First wife it was easy to come to an agreement on the second wife. I met her goofing off on a 3D chat called IMVU. It was pretty funny in a way as I was role playing my avatar and accidentally ran across her. I wasn't even serious at the time as I was thinking that a woman that young would not be interested in a poly life style, she was 19 at the time. when we got to Wife number three I was talking to a different woman and just answered J-Ann's email to biblical families. I simply told her if she wanted to ask about Poly talk to my wives.
I have learned it not where to look it's how you look for a woman to join your family. What works for me is to have the whole family involved. I have noticed that some men wives are the quiet type or don't post. Also if your wife is not 100% on board then your going to have problems Good communication with the first wife is a must. I have seen people that have not had that and then they wonder why they can't get another wife or they get the wrong one.
You have to also think how another woman is going to fit in to your life. most guys won't have an issue with the having sex and depending on her sexual orientation and your your first wife, the sleeping arrangement. i think threesomes and moresomes are the fantasy of most men and if the wife is Bi Sexual and so is the potential wife then they think they are in heaven.
However, marriage is not all about sex, any monogamous man and woman will tell you that and a marriage poly or other wise based on sex is going to fail. Look at the divorce rate in our country for that conclusion.
What I mean by fitting into your life is that you and your #1 wife sit and talk about why you need another wife. Is it religious? Is it the desire to have a big family? Or do you simply enjoyed women and want to have a few to around to help with the kids and the house work?
It may sound a bit off the track here but discussing with your #1 wife this and other details lays the foundation for your future family. This becomes important as women looking to join a family wants certain things in life, Security, family, and perhaps to have children of her own.the issue comes on how your family looks to a potential wife. After all you are looking at marrying a second wife and bringing her into your family.
How it works in our family is that we don't have any ranking among the wives. I have my first wife who is legally married and then there is the other two who are considered legally just girlfriends. I am a big fan of big love but when we choose a different model that seems to work in our family. J-Ann acts more like the alpha female then the third wife it seems, but her gift to the family is that she is good at cooking and running a house.She has completed us and brought harmony to our home. ( The cooking is awesome).
As far as the Nights go I rotate between rooms on a schedule unless the wives change it for some reason. So i get told where I sleep for the night, which is fine by me.
Running of the household I leave to the wives as a group. I do talk to them as a group and individually so I know whats going on in my house. I take an active part in the raising of the children and conversations about how they are doing, concerns, and, other issues. I would say that family meetings once a week and then lots of conversations through out the week. Running a poly family with three wives and five kids takes a lot of work, and not just money. So in a nutshell U spend time dealing with emotional matters as well.
The trick is to find that woman that will fit into your family. There are a number of Poly chats that you can look into but also you have a host of other families that are also looking. I have seen other wise good women scared away by seemingly married men hunting for a trophy to shelve next to there current wife.
I have found my wives on my space, IMVU, and bible families emails. I wasn't really trying to get there interest either it just happen in a way that I believe it was God's will. Seems like every time I try to get a woman's attention that I am sure to fail.
Yes I believe that living plural marriage is a calling from God. unlike some I do not think living my marriage is a right to my religious view. It is a Blessing from God for following his commandments.
I have learned it not where to look it's how you look for a woman to join your family. What works for me is to have the whole family involved. I have noticed that some men wives are the quiet type or don't post. Also if your wife is not 100% on board then your going to have problems Good communication with the first wife is a must. I have seen people that have not had that and then they wonder why they can't get another wife or they get the wrong one.
You have to also think how another woman is going to fit in to your life. most guys won't have an issue with the having sex and depending on her sexual orientation and your your first wife, the sleeping arrangement. i think threesomes and moresomes are the fantasy of most men and if the wife is Bi Sexual and so is the potential wife then they think they are in heaven.
However, marriage is not all about sex, any monogamous man and woman will tell you that and a marriage poly or other wise based on sex is going to fail. Look at the divorce rate in our country for that conclusion.
What I mean by fitting into your life is that you and your #1 wife sit and talk about why you need another wife. Is it religious? Is it the desire to have a big family? Or do you simply enjoyed women and want to have a few to around to help with the kids and the house work?
It may sound a bit off the track here but discussing with your #1 wife this and other details lays the foundation for your future family. This becomes important as women looking to join a family wants certain things in life, Security, family, and perhaps to have children of her own.the issue comes on how your family looks to a potential wife. After all you are looking at marrying a second wife and bringing her into your family.
How it works in our family is that we don't have any ranking among the wives. I have my first wife who is legally married and then there is the other two who are considered legally just girlfriends. I am a big fan of big love but when we choose a different model that seems to work in our family. J-Ann acts more like the alpha female then the third wife it seems, but her gift to the family is that she is good at cooking and running a house.She has completed us and brought harmony to our home. ( The cooking is awesome).
As far as the Nights go I rotate between rooms on a schedule unless the wives change it for some reason. So i get told where I sleep for the night, which is fine by me.
Running of the household I leave to the wives as a group. I do talk to them as a group and individually so I know whats going on in my house. I take an active part in the raising of the children and conversations about how they are doing, concerns, and, other issues. I would say that family meetings once a week and then lots of conversations through out the week. Running a poly family with three wives and five kids takes a lot of work, and not just money. So in a nutshell U spend time dealing with emotional matters as well.
The trick is to find that woman that will fit into your family. There are a number of Poly chats that you can look into but also you have a host of other families that are also looking. I have seen other wise good women scared away by seemingly married men hunting for a trophy to shelve next to there current wife.
I have found my wives on my space, IMVU, and bible families emails. I wasn't really trying to get there interest either it just happen in a way that I believe it was God's will. Seems like every time I try to get a woman's attention that I am sure to fail.
Yes I believe that living plural marriage is a calling from God. unlike some I do not think living my marriage is a right to my religious view. It is a Blessing from God for following his commandments.
Friday, August 13, 2010
Polygamy and Family trails
Why is polygamy such an evil word and that when mention it people conjure up the idea of sex abuse, manipulation and other nasty thoughts that is related to the Media's coverage of the FLDS.
Without getting to know the real situation people just jump to conclusions or the idea of non-Consenting children being abused or being raised to be abused.
*Note that Consenting which by definition means of legal age in this case*
Unfortunately in our society it is okay for a married man to have sex with another woman along as he doe's not take responsibility for his action or walk away from his responsibility to his family.
Abortion, unwed pregnancies, and the deterioration of the family unit, take the back burner while arguments over same sex marriages are is in the news. We hear about the ungodly behavior of the FLDS and Label anything that we do not understand as bad for society.
J-Ann's Ex ,the guy that she is still legally married too, is arguing that he intend to take custody of her daughter Willow. What makes this disgusting is that he literally abandon J-Ann and Willow when she was a baby and hasn't been in his daughters life for a year in a half. his only reason is cause he got a girlfriend. in that year and a half he hasn't paid one bit of support and of anything toward taking care of his legal wife and child.
Now that she is in a loving relationship he crawls out from under his rock to tell her what she is doing is wrong and that now he intend to be a father and prevent willow from being raised in the household as it stands now.
I take responsibility for my actions and family. When we accepted J-Ann into the family we accepted willow. All the of my wives are of legal age and I stay away from FLDS people who condone child brides and promote manipulation of their. families. We live independent and in a quiet neighbor hood where we go about living quite lives. the oldest my daughter Torrie goes to a public school and see a doctor for ADHD. Those that are required to know know of who we are and we haven't tried to hid it from the officials as we go about our business. They have a not really interested approach.
However the threats that come from the J-ann's divorce and child custody battle may just force us more into the lime light and as such I am not afraid to stand up for what I believe.
Maybe that will make Headlines, "Deadbeat Dad fight responsible Polygamist for custody of child.
Without getting to know the real situation people just jump to conclusions or the idea of non-Consenting children being abused or being raised to be abused.
*Note that Consenting which by definition means of legal age in this case*
Unfortunately in our society it is okay for a married man to have sex with another woman along as he doe's not take responsibility for his action or walk away from his responsibility to his family.
Abortion, unwed pregnancies, and the deterioration of the family unit, take the back burner while arguments over same sex marriages are is in the news. We hear about the ungodly behavior of the FLDS and Label anything that we do not understand as bad for society.
J-Ann's Ex ,the guy that she is still legally married too, is arguing that he intend to take custody of her daughter Willow. What makes this disgusting is that he literally abandon J-Ann and Willow when she was a baby and hasn't been in his daughters life for a year in a half. his only reason is cause he got a girlfriend. in that year and a half he hasn't paid one bit of support and of anything toward taking care of his legal wife and child.
Now that she is in a loving relationship he crawls out from under his rock to tell her what she is doing is wrong and that now he intend to be a father and prevent willow from being raised in the household as it stands now.
I take responsibility for my actions and family. When we accepted J-Ann into the family we accepted willow. All the of my wives are of legal age and I stay away from FLDS people who condone child brides and promote manipulation of their. families. We live independent and in a quiet neighbor hood where we go about living quite lives. the oldest my daughter Torrie goes to a public school and see a doctor for ADHD. Those that are required to know know of who we are and we haven't tried to hid it from the officials as we go about our business. They have a not really interested approach.
However the threats that come from the J-ann's divorce and child custody battle may just force us more into the lime light and as such I am not afraid to stand up for what I believe.
Maybe that will make Headlines, "Deadbeat Dad fight responsible Polygamist for custody of child.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
Family
A good friend of mine asked me to give my perspective on balancing three wives and n how your older children are adapting to your new lifestyle.
Well I wouldn't call it new as we have been living polygamist for almost two years and with B-Leigh I have a 7 month old son.
Torie who is my oldest daughter adjust to it quite well and in fact Enjoys being with B-Leigh and J-Ann. She love watching Movies with B-Leigh and does talk with J-Ann. as far as my sons they are too young to really care lol.
J-Ann has one daughter, who is 2. She don't like to share and full of energy and already calls me Dad. She love having Torie as a big sister. however she does ask to see her grandma ever now and then.
As for the balancing part, that can be interesting at times. Well the wives rotate their nights so each night I am in a different bedroom. It isn't all about Sex as most think. and Yes to answer your question I get a lot of it but then again I have three wives. I manage to keep up.
But as marriage in a monogamous relationship there is more to the marriage then the marriage bed. there is emotional issue to deal with, Kids to raise, and finances to be concern about.
Each woman has her own personality and needs that must be met. Ann is the stay at home Mom, while B-Leigh is the student in college and J-Ann is hoping to have a job here soon.
There is always something going on with the kids. Torrie starts school here soon and J-Ann wants to start teaching the two year old.
Well I wouldn't call it new as we have been living polygamist for almost two years and with B-Leigh I have a 7 month old son.
Torie who is my oldest daughter adjust to it quite well and in fact Enjoys being with B-Leigh and J-Ann. She love watching Movies with B-Leigh and does talk with J-Ann. as far as my sons they are too young to really care lol.
J-Ann has one daughter, who is 2. She don't like to share and full of energy and already calls me Dad. She love having Torie as a big sister. however she does ask to see her grandma ever now and then.
As for the balancing part, that can be interesting at times. Well the wives rotate their nights so each night I am in a different bedroom. It isn't all about Sex as most think. and Yes to answer your question I get a lot of it but then again I have three wives. I manage to keep up.
But as marriage in a monogamous relationship there is more to the marriage then the marriage bed. there is emotional issue to deal with, Kids to raise, and finances to be concern about.
Each woman has her own personality and needs that must be met. Ann is the stay at home Mom, while B-Leigh is the student in college and J-Ann is hoping to have a job here soon.
There is always something going on with the kids. Torrie starts school here soon and J-Ann wants to start teaching the two year old.
Monday, August 9, 2010
The honey to do-list
One thing about working third shift is that things pile up real fast. now that the job ended and I am home bound waiting for the next assignment I start doing things around the house. Today I pretty much took a break as I had been working on the Arbor in the garden that we have in the back yard. I cut down the dead tree in the front yard and planted a pine tree. with the wood I am building the Arbor. I will post pictures when it closer to completion.
Tomorrow it will trim the trees in the backyard and work on the arbor...
Tomorrow it will trim the trees in the backyard and work on the arbor...
Introduction
Well here it goes. I am 45 and the Husband of three wonderful wives. Ann, B-Leigh, and J-Ann in the wonderful state of Wisconsin.
There is a few ex's in the mix but to understand this better it is best to explain the prehistory. about four years ago I was monogamous marriage to a nutty woman named Kate. We were separated at the time to to some mental issues that Kate had that she couldn't take care of her children from a previous relationship. A couple that we knew in Janesville offered to have her stay with them to give her a rest from the children but the shocker was that Kate began having affairs with the couple and other men. I started to go my way figuring the marriage was doomed. I met Ann, and we had some romantic times and she also was great with my daughter that was 6 at the time.
The daughter Victoria was mine via another relationship and not kate. the wonderful thing was that Kate's children went to live with their real father who is the primary caretaker of the children to this day.
Back to the story. When Kate's children biological father decided to take custody of the kids and take her to court Kate tried to reconcile with me and I found out Ann was pregnant with my son Cameron. Kate was claiming that she was pregnant with triplets and the story kept changing on who the father was. Confronted with this dilemma, Ann offered to become poly wife #2, but Kate wouldn't have any of it and tried to run off . Long story short I filed for divorce from Kate. there was a question o her really being pregnant to begin with.
She only showed up for one court hearing and avoided the rest. All I had to prove was that Kate knew of the hearing and that she wasn't pregnant.
Both were relatively easy to accomplish and since she wasn't in court I claimed what I and Ann wanted and disposed of the rest.
While we were going though this I though prayer was directed by God to look into Mormonism and began my testimony.
Ann and I did marry legally but before we tied the knot we were dating B-Leigh with the potential of becoming wife #2. that was November 22 2008. a few months later B as we call her moved in as well.
Two months ago through the biblical families email chats I met J-Ann. She moved in two weeks later..
We moved to a four bedroom house with a backyard in a nice suburban neighborhood.
our current family consist of the three wives and five children ages 9, two at 2 years and a 7 month old from B-Leigh and a 5 month old from Ann. in addition to that we have a cat name Baxter, he came with the house, and four rats. I have two turtles, one Oscar, one Goldfish, a small family of Platties and a few hundred guppies which continue to procreate.
As a family we have faced many challenges due to our chosen lifestyle. Ann's Mother practically disowned her and Ann teenage son defected to his Grandmothers camp. B-Leigh's mother tries to get her to move back in with her and we have an interesting brush of opinions while I was courting B-Leigh. the one thing that both of the first two wives mothers have in common is their anger and hatred of me.
Ann's Mothers hatred ran so deep that it literately burnt her up in the form of cancer and she died before her second grandson was born.
J-Ann's parents have just stopped talking to her when they found out that we are polygamist. They have raised a bit of a stir.
One thing is for sure the amount of love these woman have for me and that I am blessed. They have gone through and continue to go though to be in the family.
i will continue to post more as I go along so stay tuned....
There is a few ex's in the mix but to understand this better it is best to explain the prehistory. about four years ago I was monogamous marriage to a nutty woman named Kate. We were separated at the time to to some mental issues that Kate had that she couldn't take care of her children from a previous relationship. A couple that we knew in Janesville offered to have her stay with them to give her a rest from the children but the shocker was that Kate began having affairs with the couple and other men. I started to go my way figuring the marriage was doomed. I met Ann, and we had some romantic times and she also was great with my daughter that was 6 at the time.
The daughter Victoria was mine via another relationship and not kate. the wonderful thing was that Kate's children went to live with their real father who is the primary caretaker of the children to this day.
Back to the story. When Kate's children biological father decided to take custody of the kids and take her to court Kate tried to reconcile with me and I found out Ann was pregnant with my son Cameron. Kate was claiming that she was pregnant with triplets and the story kept changing on who the father was. Confronted with this dilemma, Ann offered to become poly wife #2, but Kate wouldn't have any of it and tried to run off . Long story short I filed for divorce from Kate. there was a question o her really being pregnant to begin with.
She only showed up for one court hearing and avoided the rest. All I had to prove was that Kate knew of the hearing and that she wasn't pregnant.
Both were relatively easy to accomplish and since she wasn't in court I claimed what I and Ann wanted and disposed of the rest.
While we were going though this I though prayer was directed by God to look into Mormonism and began my testimony.
Ann and I did marry legally but before we tied the knot we were dating B-Leigh with the potential of becoming wife #2. that was November 22 2008. a few months later B as we call her moved in as well.
Two months ago through the biblical families email chats I met J-Ann. She moved in two weeks later..
We moved to a four bedroom house with a backyard in a nice suburban neighborhood.
our current family consist of the three wives and five children ages 9, two at 2 years and a 7 month old from B-Leigh and a 5 month old from Ann. in addition to that we have a cat name Baxter, he came with the house, and four rats. I have two turtles, one Oscar, one Goldfish, a small family of Platties and a few hundred guppies which continue to procreate.
As a family we have faced many challenges due to our chosen lifestyle. Ann's Mother practically disowned her and Ann teenage son defected to his Grandmothers camp. B-Leigh's mother tries to get her to move back in with her and we have an interesting brush of opinions while I was courting B-Leigh. the one thing that both of the first two wives mothers have in common is their anger and hatred of me.
Ann's Mothers hatred ran so deep that it literately burnt her up in the form of cancer and she died before her second grandson was born.
J-Ann's parents have just stopped talking to her when they found out that we are polygamist. They have raised a bit of a stir.
One thing is for sure the amount of love these woman have for me and that I am blessed. They have gone through and continue to go though to be in the family.
i will continue to post more as I go along so stay tuned....
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