Today I learned something very important and scary,
Over the years I have learned a code of ethics if you will. This defines me as a man and to me with a fundamental rule .It focuses on courting. In the years that I have been a polygamous married man I have learned to respect others in there own searches. I have three very wonderful wives wouldn't trad them for the world.
I have over the years basically through the school of hard knocks the in and out of dating on the internet in the polygamy cyber world. One of my hard fast rules is that if a woman is talking to a man or families then she is until the a time she is no longer courting a family or man. To me if as if she is courting then she is as married and off limits.
I am not standing on a soap box preaching because in a world of sin I am not sinless. These are rules that I have learned during my journey. Also if a woman is talking to another family/Man then she is most likely not that serious in you to begin with. Not saying that a woman can't talk to anyone else and most women just like about all men flirt whether intentional or not. I guess it's how the human mind is wired.
This rule seems not only to work real well for me but has also been a useful guideline as the modern American woman seems to thinks that if she stops talking to you it means she is no longer interested. But also gives me guild lines with respecting other families out there searching as well. Respecting their potentials to me is as important to respecting them as a person. I have met several wonderful people this way and enjoy being friend with them for fellowship sake. Always nice to meet families to share idea's with. Even those that have idea that I don't always agree with I have learned from.
While I live by these hard fast rules there are other that don't. Today I ran across one who not only doesn't respect this rule but also went the extra length to harass the woman I was courting. his goal was two fold.if he could not driver her to him, then he would make sure he drover her away from me.
This had been brewing a bit and no fault of hers as the man was the predator of, this gentle and sweet woman, whose only issue is that at time she is to trusting. My pat in all this was when I checked my email after working a night shift and he had sent a message to me starting with that he believes as a Mormon that I by courting was unevenly yoking her and that I am a none-believer. That not only doing a disservice to her but also to the women that I am currently married to.
He also stated that the idea that I was courting her, he used the word supposedly even though it was in black and white on her page" in a relationship with." meant nothing to him ans that a woman was available until she was married. He also wrote a bunch of stuff i guess trying to make him look like a great man and all but he ended the message that he was bowing out with the understanding that both of us will not be courting her. I was very angry. First he was never courting her to begin with and the whole if I can't have her then you cant mentality.
