Polygamy and Family trails

Why is polygamy such an evil word and that when mention it people conjure up the idea of sex abuse, manipulation and other nasty thoughts that is related to the Media's coverage of the FLDS.
 Without getting to know the real situation people just jump to conclusions or the idea of non-Consenting children being abused or being raised to be abused.
 *Note that Consenting which by definition means of legal age in this case*
 Unfortunately in our society  it is okay for a married man to have sex with another woman along as he doe's not take responsibility for his action or walk away from his responsibility to his family.
 Abortion, unwed pregnancies, and the deterioration of the family unit, take the back burner while arguments over same sex marriages are is in the news. We hear about the  ungodly behavior of the FLDS and Label anything that  we do not understand as bad for society.
 J-Ann's Ex ,the guy that she is still legally married too, is arguing that he intend to take custody of  her daughter Willow. What makes this disgusting is that he literally abandon J-Ann and Willow when she was a baby and hasn't been in his daughters life for a year in a half. his only reason is cause he got a girlfriend. in that year and a half he hasn't paid one bit of support and of anything toward taking care of his legal wife and child.
 Now that she is in a loving relationship he crawls out from under his rock to tell her what she is doing is wrong and that now he intend to be a father and prevent willow from being raised in the household as it stands now.
 I take responsibility for my actions and family. When we accepted J-Ann into the family we accepted willow. All the of my wives are of legal age and I stay away from FLDS people who condone child brides and promote manipulation of their.  families. We live independent and in a quiet neighbor hood where we go about living quite lives. the oldest my daughter Torrie goes to a public school and see a doctor for ADHD. Those that are required to know know of who we are and we haven't tried to hid it from the officials as we go about our business. They have a  not really interested approach.
 However the threats  that come from the J-ann's divorce and child custody battle may just force us more into the lime light and as such I am not afraid to stand up for what I believe.
 Maybe that will make Headlines, "Deadbeat Dad fight responsible Polygamist for custody of child.