Well it's been a rough week. Stress at work and the van beginning engine troubles. we don't know to the extent of the problem but we suspect it might need a new engine.
There remains a lot of stress in the house as we prepare a Wedding with Brandy and I. Even though we are married in the eyes of the Lord, Brandy still wants he wedding and we have th opportunity to make it happen on the 15th of January. The wives are getting stressed about getting it done.I guess that is normal.
I had Friday and Saturday off. it was great since been working through the last three weeks.
Times get sticky and I find myself doing alot of praying. It's a constant job to keep up with this family financially and physically.
Sunday, November 21, 2010
Saturday, November 6, 2010
EXCOMMUNICATION
Life always has it's mile stones and this is true about us.We have been officially Excommunicated as of the 25th of September. Yeah its long over dues to post but I have been rather busy.
Basically it sums up the topics from the September 16th disciplinary council.
The church excommunicated us as our "conduct" was contrary to the laws and order of the Church. We both received letters and mine stated that it was related to my acts on Polygamy, Adultery, and the misuse of the priest hood.
Before I can be readmitted to the Church they gave us conditions.
1. Sincerely seek the Lord. Pray and consider the living situation with my legal and plural wives. Coordinate steps to repent with the Bishop to begin the process of returning to the Church.
2. We may continue to attend and participate in church and church activities, as long as we are not argumentative, do not preach contrary to the Church doctrine.
For the record we never were argumentative or preached contrary to church doctrine. i stated in the disciplinary board I wasn't in church to do that. i was in Church to learn.
Also how can they say that I committed adultery when they recognized my wives as plural wives? you can't commit adultery with ones own wife.
The misuse of the preisthood was because they saw that I did home church and passed the sacrament among my family, while the board was pending. We already knew that the ultimate decision that they would wind up at was excommunication, So as a priest hood holder and head of the household, that thrust me into the role as the head of the home church.
Basically it sums up the topics from the September 16th disciplinary council.
The church excommunicated us as our "conduct" was contrary to the laws and order of the Church. We both received letters and mine stated that it was related to my acts on Polygamy, Adultery, and the misuse of the priest hood.
Before I can be readmitted to the Church they gave us conditions.
1. Sincerely seek the Lord. Pray and consider the living situation with my legal and plural wives. Coordinate steps to repent with the Bishop to begin the process of returning to the Church.
2. We may continue to attend and participate in church and church activities, as long as we are not argumentative, do not preach contrary to the Church doctrine.
For the record we never were argumentative or preached contrary to church doctrine. i stated in the disciplinary board I wasn't in church to do that. i was in Church to learn.
Also how can they say that I committed adultery when they recognized my wives as plural wives? you can't commit adultery with ones own wife.
The misuse of the preisthood was because they saw that I did home church and passed the sacrament among my family, while the board was pending. We already knew that the ultimate decision that they would wind up at was excommunication, So as a priest hood holder and head of the household, that thrust me into the role as the head of the home church.
OUT OF THE CLOSET
Well sorry I haven't blog in a while,.. these 50+ hour weeks sometimes get the best of me.
Lots of things are on my mind these days and lots to blog about. But lets start with the basics.
I used names like DH and Ann so that if someone accidentally came across the blog they wouldn't know who we were exactly. Since then we were ousted to the church. While I set everything to privet on my page someone manage to track down the blogs and connect the dots. More on that later,...
Any how are real names which I will be useing from now on are:
DH;......... Rich
Ann;........ Angela
B-Leigh;.. Brandy
J-Ann;..... Julie
Most of my followers and friend already knew the true identities of each of us.
Lots of things are on my mind these days and lots to blog about. But lets start with the basics.
I used names like DH and Ann so that if someone accidentally came across the blog they wouldn't know who we were exactly. Since then we were ousted to the church. While I set everything to privet on my page someone manage to track down the blogs and connect the dots. More on that later,...
Any how are real names which I will be useing from now on are:
DH;......... Rich
Ann;........ Angela
B-Leigh;.. Brandy
J-Ann;..... Julie
Most of my followers and friend already knew the true identities of each of us.
Sunday, October 24, 2010
Honey do list and Family
I feel rather accomplished today as I got some of the things around the house done. Seems like only a little work but the kicthcen sink need a new facet and a few things done around the house.
it's a lot when considering that I am putting in 54 hour weeks and i work third shift.
The wives are getting along fine today, some rough spots that had to help iron out. The show sister wives make polygamy look so interesting and easy,..
Our family differs from the Browns in that we are a younger family and our childern are smaller. We have four still in diapers.
Ann and I have been together over three years and legally married for 2 years of that time. B-Leigh follows at being around for 2 years. Seems like so long ago. B-Leigh and j-Ann never had the ceremony of a wedding to join us. we just committed ourselves to each other for time and eternity and started living as man and wives. Hopefully soon I will be able to give them a reception , though long in waiting< to announce to the world that they are my wives.
it's a lot when considering that I am putting in 54 hour weeks and i work third shift.
The wives are getting along fine today, some rough spots that had to help iron out. The show sister wives make polygamy look so interesting and easy,..
Our family differs from the Browns in that we are a younger family and our childern are smaller. We have four still in diapers.
Ann and I have been together over three years and legally married for 2 years of that time. B-Leigh follows at being around for 2 years. Seems like so long ago. B-Leigh and j-Ann never had the ceremony of a wedding to join us. we just committed ourselves to each other for time and eternity and started living as man and wives. Hopefully soon I will be able to give them a reception , though long in waiting< to announce to the world that they are my wives.
Saturday, October 9, 2010
Reflections on polygamy Blessings
When our house gets out of "Harmony", chaos become center stage. But when it runs in "Harmony" it is the most wonderful feeling and blessing that there is.
When the house is quiet and the kids are all playing without screaming it's great. My two youngest sons William and Thomas are both crawling now. It's great to watch.
We added a new life form to our family group. A death dog name Zoe. She is a mix (mutt).
Today was my first Saturday that I have had off since starting third shift. When my coworker put in his two week notice the wives were hoping that I would be moved to a different shift but instead they hired another worker for that shift.
Some things that we are striving to continue Harmony and stabilize finances. With the Great recession going on we are living as simple as we can and saving toward our future and hoping that we don't have an unforeseen emergency that will place a demand on our savings. We are also exploring ways to increase our ability to be self sufficient.
When the house is quiet and the kids are all playing without screaming it's great. My two youngest sons William and Thomas are both crawling now. It's great to watch.
We added a new life form to our family group. A death dog name Zoe. She is a mix (mutt).
Today was my first Saturday that I have had off since starting third shift. When my coworker put in his two week notice the wives were hoping that I would be moved to a different shift but instead they hired another worker for that shift.
Some things that we are striving to continue Harmony and stabilize finances. With the Great recession going on we are living as simple as we can and saving toward our future and hoping that we don't have an unforeseen emergency that will place a demand on our savings. We are also exploring ways to increase our ability to be self sufficient.
Continuation of life
Sorry with third shift, Threes wives, and five childern,.. It's been hectic around here. Haven't blogged in a while. Lots been happening though.
Lets just start on ethics. a few weeks back was contacted by a person of Face book that asked if I knew a certain woman. When I told her I had, she proceeded to say that I was being lied to and that it was an underage girl, the FBI was involved and that she was in the UK looking to runaway. When I asked for verification about the FBI the person was very vague and sounded like she was trying to skirt that and other inquiry that i was asking her.
Why i mention that? After investigating I found that the person was attempting to get me from talking to the other woman. This is the second time that I have had another couple try to influence our family talking to other woman.
I have to wonder what goes though their heads when they do this. First and foremost the last time I looked talking to a single woman, they are a person not a thing.to fight over. yes I must admit sometime I am persistent, but in my defense there are woman that I talked to for a romantic interest and we only became friends,... We Stayed in contact and I have to admit where they wound up it was where they need to have gone anyway. I am content with that. and glad that i behaved as a gentleman and found good friendships.
I follow more of a "God's will" on my relationship search, I feel more spiritual in the building the family basses. it works better then just wanting to fall for who I would consider a perfect mate .There are a lot of things that have to be taken into consideration , mainly how a potential wife would fit into the family.and do we have room?
Lot of questions and need to seek answers on courting. Seeking the advise and counseling of God is always the best. he is the ultimate therapist when it come to that and many paths in life that we need to trod.
God wants us to be happy and to be successful, which also come to my other topic, Family finances. As the family get bigger that is always a trying point no matter what the family size. in the Great Recession trying to make ends meet and to prepare for the future a major challenge. Bills have to be paid and with the added members of a family the cost of utilities go up.
You would think that with everyone working the income would be up there and in fact it's getting up there. With nine souls that live in the house not including one cat, one dog, two turtles and three rats. The Food bill has gotten up there and I never thought I would see so much spent on food. J-Ann and B-Leigh both have jobs now. B-Leigh works two part time jobs to make it. I am very proud of her. Ann is the career house wife.
My job has been doing good with overtime to work to help make ends meet. We have adopted a goal of streamlining our lives so that we don't live paycheck to paycheck. That is almost a death sentence waiting to happen for a family as large as ours.
Finances are interesting. In the show "Big Love" they just throw everything into a communal pot. this doesn't sound to good to me as that mean that we surrender our independence too much. So what we do is have a house account. We as a family add to the house account to pay the family bills. we also save money in the house account as well. In addition we all have our personal accounts. My money that I earn at work goes directly into the house account while my VA pension goes into my personal account.I am a firm believe as joint finances and individual financial freedom.I will post more often.
Lets just start on ethics. a few weeks back was contacted by a person of Face book that asked if I knew a certain woman. When I told her I had, she proceeded to say that I was being lied to and that it was an underage girl, the FBI was involved and that she was in the UK looking to runaway. When I asked for verification about the FBI the person was very vague and sounded like she was trying to skirt that and other inquiry that i was asking her.
Why i mention that? After investigating I found that the person was attempting to get me from talking to the other woman. This is the second time that I have had another couple try to influence our family talking to other woman.
I have to wonder what goes though their heads when they do this. First and foremost the last time I looked talking to a single woman, they are a person not a thing.to fight over. yes I must admit sometime I am persistent, but in my defense there are woman that I talked to for a romantic interest and we only became friends,... We Stayed in contact and I have to admit where they wound up it was where they need to have gone anyway. I am content with that. and glad that i behaved as a gentleman and found good friendships.
I follow more of a "God's will" on my relationship search, I feel more spiritual in the building the family basses. it works better then just wanting to fall for who I would consider a perfect mate .There are a lot of things that have to be taken into consideration , mainly how a potential wife would fit into the family.and do we have room?
Lot of questions and need to seek answers on courting. Seeking the advise and counseling of God is always the best. he is the ultimate therapist when it come to that and many paths in life that we need to trod.
God wants us to be happy and to be successful, which also come to my other topic, Family finances. As the family get bigger that is always a trying point no matter what the family size. in the Great Recession trying to make ends meet and to prepare for the future a major challenge. Bills have to be paid and with the added members of a family the cost of utilities go up.
You would think that with everyone working the income would be up there and in fact it's getting up there. With nine souls that live in the house not including one cat, one dog, two turtles and three rats. The Food bill has gotten up there and I never thought I would see so much spent on food. J-Ann and B-Leigh both have jobs now. B-Leigh works two part time jobs to make it. I am very proud of her. Ann is the career house wife.
My job has been doing good with overtime to work to help make ends meet. We have adopted a goal of streamlining our lives so that we don't live paycheck to paycheck. That is almost a death sentence waiting to happen for a family as large as ours.
Finances are interesting. In the show "Big Love" they just throw everything into a communal pot. this doesn't sound to good to me as that mean that we surrender our independence too much. So what we do is have a house account. We as a family add to the house account to pay the family bills. we also save money in the house account as well. In addition we all have our personal accounts. My money that I earn at work goes directly into the house account while my VA pension goes into my personal account.I am a firm believe as joint finances and individual financial freedom.I will post more often.
Monday, September 20, 2010
Up Dates and Start of Third Shift.
Sorry about the long time no update. It wasn't intentional. It has been a very busy time for the family.
Last Thursday I went back to work. Worked Thursday and Friday on first shift then on onto third shift which started Sunday night. The nice thing about this job is that it is a temp to hire and so far really enjoy working there. So Thursday was bittersweet as that was the scheduled board with the Bishop and the bishopric. the interview and board did take some time and the group was impressed by my knowledge of church history and testimonial about becoming and being Mormon. But in the end they only had one choice since I didn't renounce my marriages and relationships with my other two wives and will not go Monogamous with just my fist and legal wife, they stated that they will continue with the excommunication.It's just a matter of them writing the letter and sending it. I could ask for an appeal and it would move up the ladder, but the point is that my view on Plural marriage is contrary to the doctrine that is taught in the church today. In that I have decided that it would be fruitless and not where God is leading me. I was honest in the board and upfront as I should be.
Friday I got paid for a painting job that I had done a week before so we had money do get things done. One of the first things that we did was get a Sam's club membership and pretty much saved the membership fee in our first shopping trip. With this kind of family we have to buy in bulk,
Sunday we helped out a friend clean out a house that they were renting and got a refrigerator, Washer, and dryer. the Fringe is up and running , but we haven't got the washer and dryer here yet. so we have two refrigerators and up till now had been doing our wash at coin washes. Sunday was way to busy so actually didn't have time to get together for home church at all. I had to work Sunday night so it was get some sleep before work.
I enjoy the fact that the Lord continues to bless our house and our lives. sometime being busy is good but the wives will be much relax when the house is back to normal.
Last Thursday I went back to work. Worked Thursday and Friday on first shift then on onto third shift which started Sunday night. The nice thing about this job is that it is a temp to hire and so far really enjoy working there. So Thursday was bittersweet as that was the scheduled board with the Bishop and the bishopric. the interview and board did take some time and the group was impressed by my knowledge of church history and testimonial about becoming and being Mormon. But in the end they only had one choice since I didn't renounce my marriages and relationships with my other two wives and will not go Monogamous with just my fist and legal wife, they stated that they will continue with the excommunication.It's just a matter of them writing the letter and sending it. I could ask for an appeal and it would move up the ladder, but the point is that my view on Plural marriage is contrary to the doctrine that is taught in the church today. In that I have decided that it would be fruitless and not where God is leading me. I was honest in the board and upfront as I should be.
Friday I got paid for a painting job that I had done a week before so we had money do get things done. One of the first things that we did was get a Sam's club membership and pretty much saved the membership fee in our first shopping trip. With this kind of family we have to buy in bulk,
Sunday we helped out a friend clean out a house that they were renting and got a refrigerator, Washer, and dryer. the Fringe is up and running , but we haven't got the washer and dryer here yet. so we have two refrigerators and up till now had been doing our wash at coin washes. Sunday was way to busy so actually didn't have time to get together for home church at all. I had to work Sunday night so it was get some sleep before work.
I enjoy the fact that the Lord continues to bless our house and our lives. sometime being busy is good but the wives will be much relax when the house is back to normal.
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